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D day only month and half ago. wife having affair but won't admit it. wants quicky divorce. no abuse ever in this relationship. Wife just pawned her wedding ring. what do you think the chances of me getting her back?
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don't sign the divorce papers...
snoop gather evidence...
EXPOSE her affair....
Work on plan A for 4 weeks, if nothing changes...
GO TO PLAN B.
READ EVERYTHING ON THIS SITE!!
Buy surviving an affair and read it.
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Hi, fighting. I am sorry you are in this situation, but I am glad that you found Marriage Builders. Someone with more experience than I have will be along soon to help you. For you to get any helpful answers, you will need to post more information about what has led up to this problem. Hang in there!
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When you expose this affair do it in ONE day, and do not let your wife know you are doing this...expose to
Family
Friends
Her work
Neighbors
OM's wife and family/friends
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I need to get physical evidence? Facebook posts, phone bills..what? I have put my self in a very bad situation. I have no access to any of those accounts and am trying just to get my own bank account set up. Two children. One just started college, the other high school.this is hapening very fast now. Her boy freind is tryiing to relocate to this state.
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get hard copy, text messages, FB, email, etc...
you need to expose NOW!
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Welcome to MB and sorry that you find yourself here. Having said that, this is the BEST place for you to be in a stich like this. you need to start by reading this thread http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2370240#Post2370240 answer the questions on there on this thread. Click through all of the links and ask questions. I am glad that you have decided to get some help. There are a lot of people on here who are going to help you through this. All you need to do is listen. You have a long road ahead of you.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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D day only month and half ago. wife having affair but won't admit it. wants quicky divorce. no abuse ever in this relationship. Wife just pawned her wedding ring. what do you think the chances of me getting her back? Hire a PI and get all the evidence of the affair. Don't agree to cooperate with the divorce and don't leave your home. Don't ASK her anymore if she is having an affair. Just quietly snoop and get the goods. When you get the goods, come back here and we will help you with next steps. In the meantime, go get the book Surviving an Affair and read it so what we tell you will make sense. [they sell the book cheap here] Go read these articles here: How to Survive Infidelity
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Just printed the phone bill. $1178.00 for the month. 18 pages between two numbers. Does that help?
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Just printed the phone bill. $1178.00 for the month. 18 pages between two numbers. Does that help? Please tell me she is paying for that!!?
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I don't know where she is getting her money. Probably from selling the ring today. Have a photo she had hidden in her room. will look at her debit card history, and print the resume she did for him with her name on it and local adddress.
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Do;n't know if this was sent. have picture of them together she had hidden in her room. will print up debit card account. still need to get on her facebook.
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When are you planning on exposing this affair? remember who to target first....
Family
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Just printed the phone bill. $1178.00 for the month. 18 pages between two numbers. Does that help? Nope. That doesn't help. You need evidence of an affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Do;n't know if this was sent. have picture of them together she had hidden in her room. will print up debit card account. still need to get on her facebook. If they are talking on the phone, you can either put flexispy on her phone or put a voice activated recorder in her car or whereever she is when she speaks to the OM. Do they talk on the computer? Emails, IM? If so, go download eblaster at spectorpro.com
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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will they use this information in court. Recorder on phone or tracking facebook im recording? how will this help me
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will they use this information in court. Recorder on phone or tracking facebook im recording? how will this help me You need to know IF she is having an affair. If you have all the facts you can more effectively break up the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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