I was reading
Humbled's thread and thinking about how common it is for the BS to be apprehensive about exposure. How scared they are about what will happen if they do. They do have a reason for that--they will likely face the most anger they have ever seen. But we all know it is just temporary.
I was thinking it would help if there was a video they could watch which demonstrated the process. For example:
Scene 1: BH sitting at a table with printed proof in front of him and a list of contacts. He calls one or two and we hear him say "This is BH. I regret to let you know that WW is having an affair. I hope you can use your influence to help her end this... etc"
Scene 2: BH calmly returns home. WW is spitting mad saying how they are done, he killed the marriage, etc. All the typical scripted stuff. BH calmly responds with the pat answers (e.g. "I'm just trying to save the marriage. Would you like a cookie?")
Scene 3: Next day. WW has calmed down a bit. Crying all the time. Still saying the marriage is over.
Scene 4: Next week. WW is much calmer. Now just confused.
etc
I think that something like this would really help the BS take the step for exposure. They are scared of the unknown. By seeing the process, I feel they would be more comfortable going through with it and better prepared to stay strong through it.
Unfortunately, I don't have any experience at making videos--I don't even have a video camera! But I thought I would throw the idea out there in case anyone was interested.
