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I've been dating someone for the past 18 months. We have had our share of ups and downs as any other relationship. The problem I'm having is with her and my daughter. My daughter is 10 and swears my girlfriend is the devil. She just doesn't like her. On top of that my ex took it upon herself to delete my Ex Wife's phone number out of my daughters cell phone (granted my ex is NOT my daughters biological mother and is just ex-step mom to her). Fast forward to Sunday and I get a call from my daughters mother saying the number was deleted again. I'm really at odds and just want some opinions. I feel my girlfriend is extremely controlling and I think it's time to cut my losses.
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Really???
I am not sure what it is you want for us to say, sounds like you know what you need to do!
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Ups and downs are not normal in a good relationship. If you feel she's too controlling, then break up with her and find someone who is not. Spending more time in a dead end relationship is not going to make it better.
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I'm having a hard time following the phone number thing, I'm not sure what you're saying.
Find a GOOD relationship instead of wasting time on a BAD one. Maybe your daughter knows something you're refusing to see???
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I'm having a hard time following the phone number thing, I'm not sure what you're saying.
Find a GOOD relationship instead of wasting time on a BAD one. Maybe your daughter knows something you're refusing to see??? My girlfriend basically deleted a contact and all text messaging from my daughters cell phone related to her ex-step mother. She did it once before and is highly insecure of their relationship.
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 Your 10 year old daughter is a wise soul. I agree. If your GF is that insecure to delete phone #s off of your DD phone...time for her to hit the highway. You feel the red flags are there. Act on them
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
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Please don't date a woman that your daughter has harsh feelings for.
Plus the fact that a person not related to you or your daughter to take the steps of grabbing your daughter's phone going through it and deleting phone numbers and test msg should tell you to cute your loses right now.
NEVER !!!!!! put a woman before your own kid(s), please ask yourself why you felt the need to post this question when you should know as a father what to do.
Kids first, relationship later.
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For her to delete phone numbers and texts from your daughter's phone is a total violation of privacy! I would have told her to hit the road immediately! How your daughter must feel!!
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So Dazed are you getting what it is that you need to do here???
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Have you had a serious talk with your GF about this? Let her know that your kids will ALWAYS come 1st, and this sort of behavior out of your GF will not be tolerated? Does she have any kids of her own?
I don't like the "cut your losses and run" type of advice. I think a conversation with her to explain that sort of thing will NOT be allowed. If she can't comply and respect this...THEN screw it - leave her and don't look back.
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Dazed, do I have this correct?
1)your daughter keeps in contact with your X-W.
2)your XX-W (your daughter's mother) is informing you that your current girlfriend is deleting your X-W's # from daughter's phone.
3)I'm assuming that X and XX are friendly w/each other
4)and that neither of the exes or the daughter like the new girl
Dear sir, it seems you have gotten yourself into a bit of trouble I like to call TOO MANY WOMEN. X and XX get together and XXX doesn't stand a chance.
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)
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Captain76...my boundaries would be different than yours then.
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Dazed, do I have this correct?
1)your daughter keeps in contact with your X-W.
2)your XX-W (your daughter's mother) is informing you that your current girlfriend is deleting your X-W's # from daughter's phone.
3)I'm assuming that X and XX are friendly w/each other
4)and that neither of the exes or the daughter like the new girl
Dear sir, it seems you have gotten yourself into a bit of trouble I like to call TOO MANY WOMEN. X and XX get together and XXX doesn't stand a chance. Yes I know in a perfect world it would be great for your girlfriend to get along with your child's mother, but in this instance it just did not work out well. I appreciate all the advice you all have given me.
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