Checking in again...three years past DDay #3, OM#4 un-iversary (May 6, 2009). Happy to report that Ex is getting along nicely with me, our DDs, and my fiance. Life is GRAND!

Be strong people, do NOT give up, and do NOT be a doormat! Do what�s right, what is best for you and your family. Set the bar high, and do NOT settle for anything less. LG, out

"If it's important to you, you will find a way. If not, you'll find an excuse."

Thanks LG for the update and glad you and your DD are doing well

I don't know how you didn't Plan B that woman for life ... more power to you to be able to have a relationship with her.

Is she still as entitled, selfish, and wayward? If yes, then how do you do it without losing your mind?

I do what I do for my kiddos (DD's ages 13 and 11). Ex will always be their Mom, and I respect that and do what's best for my children. Ex is cordial to me, and in some instances really helps me out (taking kiddos when I'm on vacation or out of town). Remember, I have primary custody of my DDs...they are sleeping under my roof all but two weekends a month.

Is she still entitled, selfish, and wayward? Not that I see. As I said before, she's cordial to me and helps out when she can. She has a long-term boyfriend and it seems to be going well. I wish her nothing but the best. A happy Mom means less stress on our daughters. I am happy and at peace with my life.

Do you parallel parent? Does the contact you have with her bother you? You don't have any hard feelings towards her?

This is why it's so important that the A end, even if R never happens. Once the A is over, even if the WS goes on to have other relationships, it will be different. They will often be able to be good parents, and in many cases will appear nearly human.

Thanks for the update LG! Keep on smiling!!

My Ex is a doctor and basically said I needed to have primary custody of the DDs because of her work schedule. There was no custody battle, no arguments there...she pays me child support (and alimony...i walked away from four careers to support her medical career and was a stay-at-home dad for 4 years).

Kids sleep at my house all but four nights a month (the two weekends she has them). Ex does pick kiddos up from school some days in the month, and keeps them with her until bringing them back to my house at 8 PM on those days. I'm primary custodial parent and have final say.

Hard feelings? Not so much now. Our divorce dragged out 1.5 years, and that was a little tough. My sense was that Ex was trying to protect her business and $$, but in the end, we settled without putting it in front of judge. It was a fair settlement.

Met a wonderful woman on match-dot-com two years ago. Like I said before, life is GRAND!

Before your divorce was final?

I was going to ask the same thing. Those dang foreigners. beating me to the punch.

You have to get up early in the morning to beat the Brits, Brainy!

Wait...you're usually up all night...

Haha yup that dang night shift. Lack of sleep makes me slow and I have to be on my toes to compete with those Brits.

Hey to not t/j LG's thread can you take a look in on zouzouni's thread?

It makes sense now ... thanks for the clarification LG

Plan D enacted May, 2009...final decree paperwork signed Dec 2010.

Well hello people of MB.com

Has it really been FOUR years since Plan-D activated? Why yes, YES it has been four years!

I am here to report life is grand. DD's are adjusting well, playing club sports, oldest is getting ready for high school next year. My Redhead and I continue to raise our "blended" family to the best of our abilities.

The Ex is getting married in October to a good man. DD's tell me he's nice, treats them well, and treats Ex well...and that is all that I can ask for. Ex and I are very cordial, e-mail / text often and are on the same page with DD's. She supports my decisions and I her's.

Keep the faith people. Stay strong. Do NOT be a doormat, stand up for what you believe in and what you need in life. I am a shinning example that there is life after Plan-D.

Take care, LG

Does her soon to be new husband know she is a serial adulteress?

JK,

Glad you brought that up, because it is one aspect of adultery the adulterers don't anticipate...

When the affair and marriage fail how do reestablish honesty with the next spouse? I think many compound their error by lying about how their marriage ended, allowing their affair to continue into the third relationship.

God Bless
Gamma

Hi Lawfulgood,

Glad to hear from you. This is your infrequent responder.

I guess that you ex has proved to you to be a serial cheater. I wonder whether her interaction with marriage builders forum has in any way changed her tune. Certainly the divorce with you should give a strong Pavlovian response. Please keep infrequently posting.

Tell us more abut the redhead. Is she a copy of the Ex?

Jedi: Not sure if the new man in Ex life knows her history. Rumor on the street is that he is a "cheater" and cheated on her in their relationship. But that is just rumor / hearsay. I cannot confirm.

Thanks Gamma!

Imagine: I hope the Ex has learned from the experience, and learned from this site (in her brief time here). I do wish her the best, and hope that it all works out for her. That would also be best for our DD's.

Red is wonderful! Not much like the Ex. Red is fiery, outspoken, wears her emotions on her sleeve, kind, family oriented, caring and loving.

We were completely honest and open about our history coming in to this relationship. She knows that I will not be a doormat and will not tolerate cheating. That is a major deal-breaker...no questions asked. I know her deal-breakers. We treat each other with respect. There are challenges, as with all relationships. And it takes work. She is a good woman and I appreciate all that she brings to this relationship. She treats me right.

LG

Are you and the "Redhead" married, or living together, LG?