My guy and I were high school sweethearts that have reunited after our divorces. His ex was repeatedly unfaithful. We've been engaged since June of this year, and now I'm seeing lots of trust issues.. He had a "freak out" (his phrase) last night over a social networking site glitch (his cell phone said I had blocked him from viewing my page --I hadn't and wouldn't). I knew (know) that trust will be an issue and I have no problem working to make our life together work, but I have no idea where to even start....

Does your fianc�e know about Marriage Builders? It is a great program that when practiced fully creates a lifestyle that makes your relationship affair-proof.

Having gone through the pain of adultery, it is understandable that he is skittish. The MB program can also help him with his own personal recovery so he can move past the horrible crimes that have been committed against him.

Often the victims of adultery have described their ordeal as worse than having been raped or losing a child (this isn't hyperbole, this is from people who have experienced both.)

In this sense, you can think of your fianc�e as the victim of an emotional rape. If your best friend were a rape victim you would be compassionate and loving as they dealt with the trauma inflicted upon them. I'd say your fianc�e needs the same thing. He is triggering and emotionally reliving the feelings that his wife's infidelities caused in him.

I'd encourage you to look at the MB program together, as it provides valuable resources to ensure the success of your marriage. Your fianc�e could also post here where others who have been where he is can provide him advice and support.

There are ways to deal with and eliminate triggers. There is a lifestyle you could lead that would reassure him of his security with you, and prevent 'freak outs'.

I'd suggest you start with the book I Promise You. Then look at getting His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters eventually.

How often does your fianc�e contact his ex? Are there children involved?