Wow, how do you do that, Vibrissa

We supposed to get married in May 2010. But all that was cancelled back in December 2009 when I found out about infidelities.

Today I was at "counseling" by social worker. She said to me that good father doesn't fight for his child in the courts but is happy wherever his child is just to see he is OK. She said that good lawyer could reach full custody on courts for me but she thinks that would mean me and my lawyer are personally disordered and that if I wanted to sue her I should have looked at the interest of a child and stop my lawyer for going too far. I said good father fights for his child but she thinks it is better for child to stay with mum even if she has been cheating. She thinks our daughter doesn't care if her momie cheats.

She also says my parents don't have right to see their grandchild and that they take appropriate step to go to social worker for custody/child support as soon as I told her to leave and that there was nothing to talk about.

She thinks I am cruel to tell mother with child to leave and that she suggests me that I could have feelings of anger but I should have these feelings in control and not take actions under their influence.

I think it is just weird.

Typically you get married BEFORE you have the kid. If you'd kept it in your pants, you could walk away from this train wreck of a woman and no one would be hurt.

Because you decided to do things backwards, now your innocent daughter will suffer.

Your girlfriend isn't CHEATING. She ISN'T WITH YOU. She cheated on you but right now, what she is doing ISN'T CHEATING. She's living a single life.

Your 'girlfriend' has another boyfriend. But who knows what their arrangement is.

The reason you should take custody of your daughter is because your baby-mamma is exposing her to many different men. She is taking her out to adult environments, leaving her exposed to any sort of pervert who wants to get their hands on her. Your daughter is at a HIGH RISK for being abducted, abused or sexually assaulted.

THAT is why you go after custody.

Your 'social worker' is an idiot.

Your daughter may not care at this young age if mommy has different boyfriends, if she weren't around to see all those boyfriends. But she IS. They are being paraded through her life, creating an unstable home life, a warped sense of morality and the potential for abuse.

At least the social worker agrees that a good lawyer could get you custody. Get that lawyer, get custody, and the social worker's warped view of child rearing can go you-know-where.

She says she is in a relationship with me. She kisses me, wants to have sex with me. So, if she said she was in a relationship with me I would consider that as cheating. We also see eachother extratime and go to spa together and she acts like we are in a relationship.

Then end the relationship. She can only cheat on you if you let her. She won't stop cheating on you. She shows no remorse, she shows no desire to change.

You cannot force her to change.

Let her go, cut her off and end contact.

You are acting like you are married. You AREN'T. This woman has made no formal commitment to you and you haven't to her.

Yes it would be best for your child if you two worked it out, but she WON'T CHANGE and for you to stay around would be to subject yourself to more abuse.

If you were married, if you'd made that vow, you'd have a leg to stand on.

Right now you got nothing but the word of a liar. It isn't worth the breath it was wasted on.

You know this woman is no good. You know you won't be able to change her.

End this farce of a relationship, and file for custody of your daughter.

Oh - and STOP having sex with her and get yourself checked for STDs.

Wheels and I waited till we got married too I was his first and he was my first!

And we are going to keep it that way!!

BTW that post was EXCELLENT!!

Sometimes I'm sad he wasn't my first. It honestly doesn't bother him at all but sometimes it bugs me. There's not much I can do about it now! Oh well - live and learn.

Butchannon

Marriagebuilders tools can work wonders on almost any marriage, but nothing I know of can force maturity on a promiscuous child.

The mother of your daughter has behaved, and continues to behave in ways that have risked you rhealthm and teh well-being of your child.

Her parents, your relationship with her or them are entirely worthless now.

You need to seek to protect your child and your heart from this harpie.

Get legal advice right now to secure access to your child, and to lodge a witness regarding your GFs unmotherly lifestyle right now. I am quite familiar with Slovenia, it is part of my territory for work and I have several smart trustworthy contacts there if you need help in finding resources.

Your situation is not recoverable and should not be recovered.

All blessings.

Uh-huh. Then by that definition she's also in a relationship with any guy she spends time with, kisses, and wants to have sex with.

I'll say it one last time, butchannon: get solid legal advice (not female-speak from some hack social worker), protect your rights and the welfare of your daughter, and boot that harlot out.