This is a subject that i have avoided for ten years, but I can't anymore. Basically my husbanded cheated on me on our second year of marriage and he concieved a child and hid him for a year. If it wasn't for CSO calling I will have never found out. His entire family knew about this child and kept it hush. When I found out it broke my heart because I wanted another child but he didn't, but all along he had another child out there. I was devastated and i hid myself away from my family and friends for months. I was a walking zombie.
Listening to my husband say he love me and he wanted no part of that child and mother made me think everthing was going to be okay. He was going to pay the cs but that was all. I felt bad because this child did not is ask to be brought into this world. I repeatedly asked him to get the child so our children could get to know him but he refused. Now the child is ten and he want to play daddy now. My children is in there teens they are not interested in meeting him and on top of that everytime I see this child my hurt and anger come back. All i can think about is my husband and this women sleeping together with no condom and it disgust me. What am I to do?

GiGi,

At the very least your H should meet the child with you present or a third party and without the OW being there. His connection is to the OC and not to the OW.

Did the OW get married after having OC?

God Bless
Gamma

Do you have DNA evidence that this child belongs to your H?