Hi Hitch,

With what you have going on this is most likely presumptuous of me, but I feel you could give MJ (Michael Jan) some good advice. I just posted to him tonight, and have posted to him off and on over last few months. He seems like a very caring person, in terms of himself, his M, and his kids. However, he does not seem to be getting it. You would have to read his story, but sometimes I think if more people would post to him he would.

I am not at all ashamed or hesitant to try to get people together. I have been doing that all my life now. The reason I selected you ...is that you are my starting running back now for the next game....giving YOU the ball, despite what you may feel...you have lots to offer....so take your best shot.

Take care Hitch...you guys need a good weekend together. I just thought maybe you focusing on someone else would help. So, I won't bother you again.

Tom

Hi tom

I am responding on my phone so can't say much. Beautiful day here in England the sun is shining, I am sat on the beach on my own ammnd it really is quite peaceful.

I have had a poor weekend, I was quite upset about my H booking his trip and just in general his behaviour. Feeling like I have been banging my head against a brick wall, long and short of it I have gone into withdrawal. I just want him out of the house and out of my life.

We talked today a little, more you did this you did that. He did admit that his treatment of me had been poor and said how could I face your mother. I told him that my mother adored him and as long as I was happy she would be happy. I just can't get through to him. He then sat and sulked all day. I dint understand him sometimes I think it's because the move of the old furniture then I think it's because he doesn't want to put the effort in.

I pushed him today. Darling either we both put 100 per cent effort in or we walk away. He said walk away I said ok, then what are you going to do? He said I will leave I said ok. Then I walked out the room, he then had a tantrum about leaving saying I was the one who should go I messed up, I just left the house to walk to the beach.

Good idea about michaeljan I have read half the thread can finish the rest later. By the way my earlier post about being 'terrified' I meant it as I was terrified you might be right about your assessment of my H. You are right.

I do hope he has gone when I get home. I am sorry about that, but I need to move on. I am ready.

Thanks again, hitch

He can't do it, I said I understand let's j