Hmm, wasn't that a song?

No, no, nevermind. That one was all about wang chung.

Have a wonderfully relaxing trip, NP!

Oh, you know it's all the same: feng shui wang chung, either makes you hungry an hour later

Have fun girl! You deserve it!

Dang that coding, anyway! And I was hungry for a little Wang Chung.

Hungry...like a wolf?

(Man, I crack myself up. )

NP, we are going to turn this thread into a trip down '80s lane while you're away!

Have fun, NP.

Hope you are doing well NP

Hi everyone! It's been a while since I checked in....got back from my sister's place last Monday, 9 days ago, but it's been busy.

Nothing really new to report. I did have that feng shui person in and she made some suggestions. I am a big believer in positive energy and from the few changes I've made - what a difference! I moved all the master bedroom furniture around, and already it feels like a whole new room. Am starting to redecorate as well - changing curtains and painting and hanging pictures. It keeps me busy.

I still miss WH like crazy, but I think I'm healing. Looking back on it now, I see all the ways he treated me poorly during his A, and while before I would have done anything to keep him with me, now I feel like I could do without that alien (not my husband, just the alien). I think now that I'm recovering myself, I realize how much more I deserve and how little he valued and respected me at the end. Never thought I'd be able to feel that, but I guess it's true time heals.

The kidlets are doing great - DD still talks to WH all the time but I'm trying to get her to understand that Daddy doesn't live with us anymore, he lives with his girlfrend. It upsets her but she's getting used to it as well. L'il bean is just a blessing, he's such a great kid - never any trouble at all to me.

These things I can thank God for. It's easier to believe it when I'm praying only for healing now, instead of begging God to make him come back.

Hope you are all doing well! I missed you guys!

Hey NP's
Have been wondering as to when you would check in. I am so glad you had a nice vacation and visit with your sister. I am also glad to hear that you are doing better and feeling a little better.

Just stay dark and stay true to what you believe in.
And your right, time does start to heal the wounds; although I think lots of time will be required to heal the wounds caused by the aliens that have wrecked the havoc on our lives.

Know that there is an entire community of people here who care about you and are here to listen and vent to.

Hang tough and give those babies lots of love and hugs.

Take care.

I am so glad you checked in, NP! You have always seemed like sunshine to me, even when things were so dark for you. I see good things coming to you!
When one door closes, another one opens. It's the way of life. Embrace it.
NP

What an incredibly nice thing to say, mb! Thank you! It's been hard sometimes to feel like sunshine, but I am trying hard to keep a strong positive outlook on life and not give up on marriage!

Glad to hear you are doing better. Thanks for checkin in it inspires all of us.

Glad to have the positive update, NP. I hope things continue to sort out, especially for your own recovery.

I agree with all, glad to see a positive update! Keep on going for your own recovery. {{{{{{{{NP}}}}}}}}}}}

WH had DD down at his mom's for Thanksgiving over the weekend and today she sent me an email. She said in it that she wished WH and I could have another good conversation, and that anytime there was a hint of DD talking to me on the phone, he'd follow up, and if she even mentioned me slightly, he'd ask if she wanted to phone me.

I don't know if that means he's missing me - clearly she thinks so, but he's not missing me enough to come home, that's for sure.

I wasn't sure if I should reply and ask her not to tell me things like that. I admit I like hearing it, but at the same time, it makes my heart hurt, kwim?

Had another nice day - went to the gym, took a long walk to the library (and almost died pushing the double stroller back up the hill!).....I rented the movie "The Secret." I'm trying to do self improvement for myself right now, and that seems right in line with what I need. Also started reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People." WH always was trying to get me to read that book, and I never did. Too bad, because it's given me all kinds of insight into the way I could have treated him differently and "influenced" him....live and learn, I guess.

Hi NP

sounds like he is starting to miss you. How long has it been now? Is it about a month since Plan B started? You sound very strong though and I admire how you have been keeping yourself busy.

I had to do the same as you and start a new thread as I think WH has got my thread, not sure for definite.

Anyway hope all is well with you, sorry to hijack your thread but just would like Tom and constant know that I have started a new thread.

Harmony

I was really wondering how you were doing.

It's nice to know that you are doing well.