Well Scotty, I am closer to the D and I still say husband, of course sometimes I refer to him as the A$$h@le.

Now thats perfect...

You can just call him

my "husband"
"My" favorite "site" of unnecessary quotation "marks"

Would I need to use air quotes. thanx Neak.

Mybabbydaddy?

my two sense..... i refered to him as my husband until i filed for divorce.... then it was just his first name or my DD father. I do call him my xh now but not all the time usually dd dad or his first name.

I personally though "douche" was a nice touch. And I HATE that word (I ranks up there with "piehole"...... )

How about "alien-invader"????....

Not

Sorry Not.....but I still prefer A$$h@le....Only, I cant call him that if my son is around.

When I first found out about A, I put WH name in my phone as Satan....He found out and he said he loved it...when he knew I was in church one day he called and thought it was hystercal that Satan was calling me in Church...

A$$h@le.

Well, in my speed dial for both my home and cell, Wh#&EFACE's numbers ARE under that name.

Alien-invader would be fine except then I would need to explain. It's for the times when I am talking to people who don't know Bampot. If I said his name, I would have to explain who he is, then I say, "My husband." Maybe I could say, "The man I married?" Sounds cheesy. "Husband" it is.

Still, I do call Bampot those other names and sometimes worse.

Thanks for the updates, Scotland. Best of luck in your Plan B.

And be very careful with your personal trainer. Remember your own Extraordinary Precautions... a PT is in a unique position to meet your needs in many, many ways. Keep your walls high, you're very vulnerable right now!

DNM, don't worry, I have already been given "the talk" by all of the other MBers about the personal trainer. Although I say personal, we actually go as a class with at least 2 of us. And I will NOT go alone. He doesn't have my number, if he needs to contact me, it's through my friends. I see him a few hours a week and that's it. Thanx for looking out for me, I know it is said out of love(See Opt, it is said to EVERYONE dealing with an active A ).

Now that made me chuckle; but I totally agree - A$$h@le!

I keep getting the talk from my doctor; give yourself some time, it takes a year to love again, make sure you use condoms (blah).
I keep telling him - not remotely interested in that or a relationship for that matter.

Why does everyone seem to push for us to move on to the next relationship? I feel as though I have barely had enough time to grieve such a traumatic and devastating loss. Sometimes when thinking about the situation I still occasionally cannot catch my breath. Yet even my friends (whom I love dearly) are starting to contemplate who they can set me up with. Again Blah. Sorry Scotty for rambling.

That's actually pretty priceless, stillhere! Would've been better if he had actually repented though...

I have trouble saying "husband" AND "ex-husband" right now. Husband seems to intimate, like it's a lie now, and ex is just too final. It actually angers me when I hear people calling him that... Husband until the divorce is final, I guess. I just say his name, or The Jerk.

NP, I just used to HATE it when people would say "your ex." I used to correct them and say, "We are still married." Now, I don't say anything. I try not to talk about him too much either. It seems to help. I don't call him mean names to anyone IRL, except you guys and myself.

well if you want a creative name... a friend of mine refers and has for about a year and half now (a year an half after the affair started)to my now XH as PLANKTON.... as in the stuff below sea barnkles. Her daughter told her it was the lowest form of sea life.... so that is how she has always refered to him.

Okay guys. I have a confession(won't surprise PM though). I have been acting as my own email IM for the past few months. My IMs became unreliable and hard to reach. I would send messages through their email but I would send it as if it were written by them. Problem came up when I realized that Bampot could have found out that I sent the emails by reading the full headings(thank you spying thread). It had been okay, at least emotionally for me, until this morning.

This month, Bampot and I get paid 3 times. I figured out a way to ensure that I would have enough money to cover my house bills in case he didn't pay me for the third pay cheque. I am prepared because I am always thinking about possibilities. Well, he sent this email yesterday, in response to my email that he had overpayed half of DS10's boxing training money.
This was at 835 pm

This morning, I woke up to this email

I am not reacting to it, but I am going to act now. I am going to put some legal pressure on Bampot and he is going to see something that he didn't expect. No more Mrs. Nice Scotty. Yes, I WAS being nice before. He awoke the dragon in me. It is not going to be evil (although I so want to tow the car to her driveway and let it be HIS headache).

I am not entering Plan F/U, I am still going to do this by the MB way, I am just angry and when I am angry I do my best work.

I have already given myself all of the 2x4's and I will be the first to advocate not doing it this way. I am currently changing my IM so no worries. This time, I will stick to complete darkness(I told you guys I was human and I often make mistakes but if I didn't learn from them, I would be CRAZY )

On a funnier note, Guess what the kids had for dinner today? Kraft dinner. Hot dogs were for lunch. That sounds healthy and filling to me, DS10 has been eating for the last 1.5 hours since they arrived home. And speaking of them arriving home, I didn't hear them ring the doorbell, the batteries must have died in it, then I heard them knocking. I went to the door and I could see through the shadows, that Bampot was still there. I unlocked the door. Then I heard Bampot say, "Is she there? Are you sure?" DS10 said, "Yes, I didn't have a key." I was standing right behind the door. DS10 could see me, but Bampot couldn't, he said, "Go inside and make sure she is there." My mom's car was parked outside, how did he think it got there? I whispered to DS10, just go inside and then come back out and tell him I am home. He did this. He came out and said, "She's home." Bampot said, "Did you see her face?" DS10 said, "Yes, she IS home."

The kids and I went inside and I said, "I am sorry, I didn't hear the doorbell." DS10 said, "Well, Daddy drove around the block twice."

Get your new IM team set up yesterday, girl! I'm not going to bother clobbering ya, because I know you already know everything I could tell you.

I agree with your decision to go the legal route for what he pays. When it's official, you both know what to expect, and someone else can play the enforcer if he decides it isn't convenient for him to pay for something he agreed to.

Ok, just one time I can't help it.