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WH is on a business trip. He has told me over and over he doesn't love me and doesn't want to. I tell him I am fighting for our marriage and I love him. He flew out Tuesday for a business trip. He did not call me at all today. Should I call or text? Say I love you or just go the whole week without talking since he doesnt want to. I am not sure how this works in plan A. He has said again he wants to move out and get an apartment so I might be in plan B soon which I know then not to contact but what do I do for now?
Tammy
BS (me) 33 WH (dh) 32
married for 12 yrs-3 kids 11,9 and 4 yrs old
DDay Jan 2005 told of EA with OW1 believed the story found out it was a PA on 11/2010
Another PA also with another woman sometime in between
multiple one night stand on business trips
DD summer 2007 received a letter from a woman believed dh it was from an online affiar. Found out 11/2010 she was also a PA.
DDay Nov 7th 2010 found email saying I love you to OW:(
Last PA was 3/2010-11/2010
NC Dec 9th
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Text and email something simple. Don't go crazy, don't wait with baited breath on a reply. Simply state your feelings and commitment to falling in love again and restoring your marriage.
It is not you who has given up, it is him. SHOW him what it means to want to fight to restore your marriage and fall in love again.
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
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I would AVOID stating your feelings. It will come across as false and desperate.
Stick to everyday topics. Throw in a question here or there if you can..."honey, do you know where that small hammer is? I wanted to hang a picture in Billy's room"
Or ask about his trip and if things are going well.
Have you exposed?
(This is why its better to stick to one long thread - people can read your story and have a better understanding of your situation before posting advice. I don't have time to go look for your other thread to see whether or not you exposed, and then come back to post my advice to you....)
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