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Do I take my wedding rings off during Plan B or leave them on?
Tammy
BS (me) 33 WH (dh) 32
married for 12 yrs-3 kids 11,9 and 4 yrs old
DDay Jan 2005 told of EA with OW1 believed the story found out it was a PA on 11/2010
Another PA also with another woman sometime in between
multiple one night stand on business trips
DD summer 2007 received a letter from a woman believed dh it was from an online affiar. Found out 11/2010 she was also a PA.
DDay Nov 7th 2010 found email saying I love you to OW:(
Last PA was 3/2010-11/2010
NC Dec 9th
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Can you ask the mods to combine your threads please?
As far as wedding ring on or off, it's up to you. I took mine off after about 7 months of Plan B. Others do it before their WS leaves the house.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Mine is off. I took it off after 2 months in plan B. If the M recovers vows will have to be taken again. The ring symbolizes the marital vows which our WH broke.
blessing
atena
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Mine are still on, at the moment, I am not really sure when to take them off, when I file a D!
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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I never did a plan B, but mine stayed on until the divorce papers were signed by the jugde and filed in the courthouse.
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Do I take my wedding rings off during Plan B or leave them on?
Tammy Keep it on. I did not have mine during Plan B (threw it at FWH on d-day and lost it) and it was not good. BS's must put out a scent of vulnerability because all of a sudden you will start getting hit on like crazy. Keeping it on will help you keep your guard up and not send out the wrong message.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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You can do whatever you want, keep it on, or remove it, whatever makes you feel better..... but please please please stick to just one thread for all these subjects.
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I think it depends on the reason for wearing the ring in the first place.
If you want to send the message that you consider yourself married then leave it on.
If you don't consider yourself married take it off.
It's a ring signifying you are married.
It's an individual choice for what YOU feel you are, married or not.
Following Mrs.Flint's acceptance to do MB Plans with me we had a new one made with the date of the NEW marriage and the engraving of Policy of Radical Honesty (PORH) on the inside.
She wears that today instead of the other.
Because THIS one means something...
Jim
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If it were me, I'd keep it on for the rest of my life until or unless I gave up and began searching for a new mate. Despite her infidelity, I married my wife for life or longer. Just because she chose to forget her vow does not mean I did.
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