I had to start a new thread because I don't know how to respond - once I 'log on', it will not give me an option to even read any posts. When 'logged out', I can read - it's bizarre.

Thanks for your post, AGG. It made me feel 'less' of a failure. I contacted my bf, but he won't pick up his phone, so he just wants to end it cold turkey it seems.

It's very hard, even though earlier on everyone, including myself, felt that it's a bit too unreasonable that my bf spends that much time away from us pursuing his own interests, which is not even his career. It sounds very logical that people warned that eventually we will run into some issues.

But I thought I have come to acceptance that he is gone at least one out of two days during the weekend. He never wanted to give up his passion, and told me that I am not supportive if I do not 'cheer' for his passion.

If this is just a poor match which would never meant to work out - I would feel a bit better. I feel so bad for my boy who does not have his father living in the same house and has been asking me to remarry. He is now very attached to my soon to be my ex bf. Now my boy will lose him as well, the thought breaks my heart...

It sounds to me like you got involved with your BF on a rebound, where we usually see only what we want to see, and ignore the red flags. Now you are seeing the red flags, and I'd say that this guy is not relationship material for you.

It's unfortunate that you got your son so attached to the BF, but perhaps this can be an opportunity to show him that it's important to pick the right partner, and the BF is not it. And since you are only in the "shopping" phase, it's OK to move on to someone who is more appropriate for you.

AGG

Yes, it can be a learning experience for your son that you don't accept what's not acceptable and the two of you can move on. Maybe spend some special time with him to help him over the hump.