Wow. Been up snooping, fun. Where to start. I became concerned when he called me another woman's name. I found pics of his exwife in his email. I confronted him and he game a b.s. answer of it was a joke. Hmm. 20 plus explicit pictures over a three year period a joke. I, of course know that it was not a joke and it was not a forward, but I think they are actually of her. She lives five hours away. And my husband picks up his daughter for holidays and the summer. I asked him to delete them and he said he did ( he did not). I asked him to tell her to stop. He said he did, but I found a message to send these pictures to another email account. Hes agreed to m. counseling. I do not know what to do. How do I act as I look for more information? DO I get tested for std's? DO I do a version of plan A until I have enough to confront him? Just wow. I wish I'd known about marriage builders before. I and him have made so many mistakes.

How old are you and WH?

Was WH married when you started dating him?

When did you find out about MB? It looks like you registered 6+ years ago?

Anyhoo. Sounds like there is definitely an A going on with his ex. Is she the only woman in the photos? Do you go with your H when he travels to pick up DD? Does he travel on business?

How long have you been married? Do you have children of your own?

I am 36 and he is 39. We've been married for 7.5 years and have two children together. 11m and 3. And my son 13 and stepdaughter 13. And no he was not married when we started dating. No, I haven't been traveling with him because of the younger kids to pick up his daughter, but I will start this ThanksGiving for sure.
She is the only woman in photos and no identifying features. But the shots look like the same person.
I might have registered six years ago. We were having blended family issues and I was looking for help.
Yes, he travels for business. He is in AZ now and will be home tonite. He only travels for conferences and I usually go, but not this time. I just don't know what to do. I have no physical proof right now. I don't know if its more than the pics. Wow, theyve had a volatile relationship, I'm completely blindsided by this.

cocopalm, the pictures are evidence of an affair, so you have enough to confront right now. I would confront him about his affair and demand that he end all contact for life with the XW.

Is the XW remarried?

The biggest problem I see in your marriage besides the affair is your H's traveling job. That is an invitation to an affair and it will be an impediment to recovering your marriage. He is free to pursue his XW on his business trips and you can't restore the love in your marriage if you aren't meeting each others needs on a daily basis.

I will travel with him for now on if we survive that long. I did confront him. And he blew it off. Can you help me with a good plan. I have the emails. Do I just print them off and give them to him including the one where he gave xw a new email and what kind of ultimatum do I give? I finally broke down and cried today after ten days. The shock finally wore off. I'm gonna have a hard time keeping it together. I told him I'd email him the emotional needs questionaire, but am I doing this backwards. I also want to wait because he called me by his secretary's name and she acted inappropriate towards him at a work party. She was fired, and I'm wondering why now. I wonder if there is another affair in the background.

Is his XW married?

Can you get copies of those emails to a safe place? Like a friend/family's house? You may need that later.

You were snooping? That is how you found this evidence? Do you have any other ways of snooping? Will you be able to implement some snooping techniques in case he tries to pull this underground? Do you have a VAR or GPS? What about a keylogger?

Also, for what reasons did his previous M end?