If any one has been following, I have been tryin to let my W know that I still love her and want to rebuild our marraige after now 10 months of seperation. I have been visiting this site for about a month now. It seems like forever though. I have taken in all of yalls advice and been doing everything said to me. <P>Although I was the betrayed I feel like I am the one that has to do all the changing is this normal. I have been the one saying I love you, sending e-mails to say I hope she has a nice day, and all that other stuff I'm supposed to do.<P>Still I get nothing from her no response from the e-mails (not even a message to quit sending them) or nothing. Just sometimes when I go visit the kids She asks If I would like eat dinner over there. <P>When do you know its over for good and to quit trying. I dont want to give up, but this really hurts to.<P>I for =got to tell yall that I talked to her earlier today and she said she was having a bad day so I sent e-mail flowers she got them, but again no response.<BR>THANKS <P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR><p>[This message has been edited by brownphd (edited October 26, 1999).]

I havent been following your story,but<BR>looking over the past year. I think I should have showed more independence. Sometimes the constant contact keeps the other thinking<BR>that they always have you to fall back on.<BR>I really felt bananas if I didnt talk to him<BR>and I wish I had done different.I DONT KNOW IF THIS IS HELPFUL OR NOT IN YOUR SITUATION.

I didnt start showing her that I wanted this until our second child was born in july. I did stay away and the only contact I had was when I picked up my first son on my weekend. <P>She has told me though that she would try if she knew thingh wold be doffrent. She os wanting a garentee I cant give her this and she cant give that either.<P>Tanks<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR>

dzrt, I dont want to stop cause this is the way I want to be to her, but in a way I dont want to be taken advantage of like the other day when I had dinner over there she asked for money cause she was behind. I told her after I took care of my stuff Then I would I kinda think this might not be a good idea, but I cant stand to see them in a bind.<P>THANKS<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR>

Just as soon as I say I get no response. I got one today about the e-mail flowers. She said that she liked them and they did put a smile on her face. This is so confusing for me.

Hang on. Don’t expect much, but hope for the best. Sounds like your tickling her ivories just a bit.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>