ITS BEEN 1 YEAR SINCE MY MARRIAGE OF 25<BR>YEARS WAS CONTAMINATED BY MY H EMOTIONAL<BR>AFFAIR AT WORK. I EXPECTED TO BE OVER THIS AND I'M NOT. WE DONT DISCUSS IT NOW, BUT<BR>THE OW AND HER FRIEND STILL DROP BY HIS NEW<BR>JOB FROM TIME TO TIME AND I HATE IT. SHE REALLY HAS THE NERVE. SHE DID MARRY HER<BR>FIANCEE SHE HAD AT THE TIME.IT DOESNT MATTER.<BR>THIS IS LIKE A GRIEVING PROCESS AND I STILL<BR>WONDER IF ITS WORTH IT? ANYONE ELSE AT THIS STAGE?????????

You won't ever truly recover if he's still making an effort to speak to her. My husband had an EA with a girl at his work and it has stopped, but he still works there. If your familiar with Fantasy Football, they have a league at the office in which she is the only female member. Every time I hear her name, or see a message from her on his computer I die all over inside. The only thing that helps is he doesn't respond and has spent his evenings and lunches with me or where I could find him and prove who he is with. I can't continue to get mad at him, because she works there, but it does hurt over and over again!!! <BR>In your case, My opinion only, would be to ask him in the most loving way, to tell her not to come by anymore. It's not healthy to anyone involved. If you are working to meet each others needs and he realizes this is a need for you, he should respect your feelings. If he doesn't then I would question the motives.<BR>Good Luck<P>------------------<BR>Mater<P>

Thank you mater. I needed to hear your opinion.I think you are right!!!!!