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I guess this thread needs to be moved to the divorce/divorcing section. I served her papers already. I can no longer stay with someone who continually hurts my soul/spirit.
Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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I am really sorry to hear this Heartbroken.
However, I hope you get that small internal strength from knowing that you are strong enough to remove someone from your life who has consistently violated your boundaries.
Your only 32, you have your whole life ahead of you, full of happiness I am sure.
Keep us posted on your progress.
Best wishes
Harmony
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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Thank you Harmony. I will. 
Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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Well, the divorce became final today. I don't feel great about it, but I did what I had to do. She put me in this position. I tried my best but she didn't do anything to change. It hurts so much but I've learned a lot. I hope the future holds brighter times for me...
Thanks so much everybody for your help and advice. I appreciate it SO much!
Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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I am soo sorry this had to come to a D, but in the long run heart you will be saying "that was the best decision I've ever made"
You will find someone that is worthy of being called your "wife" someone who cherishes marriage/family, you will be so much happier.
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The upside of the story is that you know about meeting emotional needs and establishing a POJA with new relationships.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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