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I have been the stay at home parent takeing care of the kids for well there whole lives. When my wife moved out i had custody of the kids(temp custody) we have gone to court twice with her trying to change it. they modifed it but have not given her custody. right now its visitation every thursday night (all night) and every other weekend.
we just went in tuesday again and she wants tuesday and thursday nights with every other weekend and wensday night. the judge shot that down.
she wants 50/50 time so she does not have to pay child support. she already quite her job so she wouldn't have to pay Alimony.
she has major anger issues. from assaulting me to being overly harsh on the kids. last friday was my daughters (8) Girlscout meeting. my daughter was goofing off and was late. my wife spanked her and told her she is takeing her out of GS since she can't be ready on time. i am trying to fight her on that..but she is dead set on it. but its more because she USED to be a co-leader until the Affair and assault came out. then her friends kinda stopped talking to her.
Also she tried to get the judge to give her "custody" of one child so she could get state aid for insurance. the judge said no. then her attorney sent me and my att a letter asking me to give her "custody" of one child for insurance (all women? or something like that). both got mad at me when i said no. since im on disability i need both kids (since i have them) to get housing, food stamps etc.
bah.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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Stick to your guns do not give an inch on custody. Lucky you have a judge that has your back.
Tell WW she wants insurance to get her job back.
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went to court. she brought up insurance. the judge told me to find out how that would impact my food stamps. he said anything else (i brought up housing. I know i will have to move out of the family house and into section 8 or such) can only be brought up when i file for houseing.
what the heck? she can go get a full time job and get health insurance and buy food. but hell i have to lose "custody" (on paper only) of one kid wich will effect my food stamps and perhaps housing? man thats nuts.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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