@everything -

Anger is good. Now you is for something constructive. Lift weights go running. Punch a pillow. Anger is very normal.

I would be very surprised if she came back begging. She is a wayward. There are cracks starting in the affair. The affair is not over. Get her back in the home so that you can Plan A effectively.

Tonight if you talk about the affair or relationship all you will get is wayward babble.

Dude, she just found out the OM she was just bangin', lied to her and used her. If she did come running back and begged you that would, IMO, would be a . If anything she is going to be upset that the OM she was in love with treated her like piece of a**. Can you handle talking about how she is upset that OM treated her like this?

If there is some financial reasons to protect your assets then by all means, start Plan D. But if its because you are angry then DON'T! Anger generates a fight or flight reflex. Plan D is flight. Do you want to fight to save your marriage? Then use that anger.

Have you been reading up on what is Plan A and what it is not?

You might want to also read up on the Giver/Taker articles.

Yes, I've read about Plan A and understand it. I just didn't find this site until I had already blown my shot at doing it. Also, I'm the Giver she's the Taker.

I'll only agree to allow her to move back into the home if she agrees to NC with OM and then does it immediately. If she won't do that, it's Plan D.

We have no kids and there's nothing other than honoring the committment that is even making me hang on to this at all. I was going to file today, but she said she wanted to talk to me tonight. So I guess we're going to have to talk about the affair in terms of it ending for good and instituting NC immediately.

Even if she does beg, which you're right is a huge red flag, I'm not sure I want to take her back. the anger is clouding my mind right now and I can't see through it enough to really think about it. I love her, but she, like all WWs, betrayed and lied to me. She says she harbors a lot of guilt about it but yet continued to do it. It makes no sense to me at all. None of this mess makes sense.

Agree

you do not want a life with this person especially to have children with her.

Kick her to the curb

Moving on to Plan D.

She says she's in love with him and I'm not going to waste any more time with her. I file on Tuesday (earliest time me and my lawyer could get together after 4pm).

I'd like to thank you all for your help and guidance, even though I didn't really follow it all the time. I now know that I'm going to be better off without this head-case in my life and the hurt and pain will go away in time. I'm just going to go do my thing for a while and figure out how to cope with the loss of a relationship that was so good but ended so poorly. I'll get over it.

Good luck, everything. We're here if you need us.

Of course you will get over it you are still young and their are no children so you can block this person from your life and pretend it never happen if anyone ask about your exwife say "who??" then change the subject