about two months ago my husband broke up with me, saying he wasn't married anymore. he wouldn't give me a a solid explanation, so i asked if he had someone else, he of course said no. i knew better. it turns out he had feeling for his classmate, who was just a friend. i think they only had an emotional relationship so he wanted to break it off with me before it became physical. since then their relationship has escalated and they are saying i love you to eachother (i read his texts without him knowing) he refused counceling. finally i got him to go with me to go to nashville to joe beams marriage crisis seminar, it was effective, because it opened up some communication between us, he told me he still loved me< and he doesnt think he can ever get over me< but he just isnt commited. he said he didnt care if he lost the other woman. we discussed that we would work on him being a better father and us rebuilding a friendship, well we have been back for five days, the first day back from the seminar he comes home with a huge hicky and he gives the workbook binder to the other woman. he comes home late and doesn't even put our son to bed, he doesn't text or call to say he will be late. i'm at a loss. i have been strong< i even talk to him about his feeling for the girl. i made it clear that i feel he is wrong and making a huge mistake. he wants to just get a divorce. i still want this to work, i think he is in a severe dillusion and im sort of waiting for him to wake up. im taking care of myself in all aspects, im taking care of our twins by myself while he is acting like a teenager. he shows no remorse. im praying that there relationship fall apart, the sad thing is the female still has a boyfriend, she is cheating with my husband. cant he see she is using him, she knows if she doesnt like him she can send him home. im having faith and peace in God, but i need good solid advice how to get threw this...

First of all their is no such thing as "Broke up" in a marriage it is either a divorce or together nothing else.

You need to expose this affair to everyone you know, everyone your WH knows, and everyone the OW knows.

That will clear things up

Read everything on this site.

Also give us more imformation

How old are you?

Do you have kids? What ages?

How long have you been married?

Is this both of your first marriage?

etc

@arri23 -

You don't get through this. By that I mean if you sit around and do nothing and wait for something to happen, something will happen that you won't be happy with.

Now, specifically, do you want to save your marriage?

yes i want to save my marriage< it seems unresolvable. im 20 he is 22, we have been together for 6 years, married for two and a half. our kids are 2, they are permanently disabled. it been a very hard road, this affair is just an escape. he is all over with his emotions, his anger, i think he is depressed. i dont want to wait around for anything to happen. i have talked him to death, withdrew and what not. i wish i could move but i dont have the financial means. im a full time college student with disabled twins....