I've had a very rough week. Fighting with my ex-wife about holidays and weekends, etc... We had original agreed on 1 thing and she decided all of a sudden to back out of that agreement...which she can do because the div doc said something dif't than we agreed on. We had originally agreed to share Thanksgiving (morning-lunch with me/afternoon-dinner with her) this year and alternate Christmas Eve/Christmas Day.

She decided to go out of town all of a sudden and let me know that I won't see my girls at all for Thanksgiving. They're leaving Wednesday and coming back Sunday night...so she just said, "sorry...but I changed my mind and you can't do anything about it...it's in the div decree this way..." Well she's right - I'm stuck with it. Sucks. I'm already very sad about it and it's not even Thanksgiving yet. She said I could have them Monday and Tuesday if I want...but she knows I have a job (she still doesn't) and that's not possible. Whatever...nothing I can do about it.

I'm sure next week will be worse emotionally, and I don't know how it's going to feel on Thanksgiving day when I'm sitting with my family but my girls aren't with us. Then Christmas. Wow...I don't think I'm prepared for this.

me and my WW have agreed on holiday's. i am sopposed to have thanksgiving.
though my van broke down and can't drive the 5 hours to my dads house. so she is claiming since i can't go to my family's its not fair to the kids to keep them home. she wants to take them to her dads but refusing to give me time around christmas.

yes. this is going to be hard.

one piece of advice i have received from everyone is PUT EVERYTHING IN WRITING. my wife has screwed me twice so far because i haven't.

Look closely at your divorce decree and see exactly what it says. You may be able to sue XW for contempt of court if she is ignoring the orders in the decree (though that will cost you money, of course).

It seems strange that the decree would leave your XW free to just do whatever she wants and ignore the kids' visitation with you.

And if nothing else - I don't know how old your kids are, but they will grow up knowing which one of their parents keeps their word when it comes to them and which ones yanks them around and tries to keep them from the other parent.

The div decree is loosely worded to say that whoever has them for Thanksgiving will have custody beginning the Weekend beginning their Thanksgiving break from school and they are to be returned the Sunday after Thanksgiving to the other parent. Meaning...she had every legal right to do what she did, but it's just shameful that she actually DID it. Makes me mad because she still has NO job (and doubt she'll get one). She KNOWS that I work my butt off to provide for our family (always have) and she doesn't have to work so she has my money (more than she needs) to pay all her bills and all the free time in the world with the kids. I can never spend the time with them that SHE does because I have to work so dang hard to pay the CS and all my own bills. It's ridiculous.

It is ridiculous....I dont work and my husband is the wayward...and for DS sake I make sure that my WH sees him a fair amount of time. It just wouldnt be fair to my son...I know that he loves his father and that he treats him good. I love my DS more than I hate his father right now...It sounds like your ex cares more about herself right now. Im sorry, that sucks.