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Re: The 180.....questions about it.....
MelodyLane #2446572 11/26/10 04:54 PM
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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
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No...my credit is too bad....

What happens after an affair is confirmed ???

You kill the affair by causing as much conflict as possible.

What kind of conflict ???

Re: The 180.....questions about it.....
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Originally Posted by lostwithouthim
What kind of conflict ???

Exposure, confrontation of the affair partner, we open up holy unmitigated hell on the affair. Exposure ruins affairs. It is like bringing in a crowd of people into the crack house to watch the crackheads get high. It ruins the high! The best weapon you have against this affair is exposure.

Dr Harley [founder of Marriage Builders] is a clinical psychologist for 40 years who specializes in adultery. Here is what he says about exposure:

Originally Posted by Dr Harley
Exposure is very likely to end the affair, lifting the fog that has overcome the unfaithful spouse, helping him or her become truly repentant and willing to put energy and effort into a full marital recovery. In my experience with thousands of couples who struggle with the fallout of infidelity, exposure has been the single most important first step toward recovery. It not only helps end the affair, but it also provides support to the betrayed spouse, giving him or her stamina to hold out for ultimate recovery.
here

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101
Re: The 180.....questions about it.....
MelodyLane #2446593 11/26/10 07:04 PM
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Lostwithouthim, I am so sorry you are here...but you have found the best place for you to be for the chance to save your M...read as much as you can on this website.

You also have one of the most knowledgable vets on this website posting and helping you....Melodylane, listen to her she knows her stuff. If your H is having an affair, the first step is to expose it and kill it.....Hang in there and Good Luck...

BW me-41
WH -39
DS - 9
married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered
DDay aug 2007
found MB dec 2007
Moved out april 2008
still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
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