Good Evening Everyone,<P>I've been a long time member, constant lurker, but only occasional poster. I too am on the roller coaster but wanted to report some small upturns. <P>Since my car accident in July I've had constant pain in my right ankle and have struggled with love busters. (Pain makes me a royal b****)<P>Yesterday morning as I limped to the shower and H was preparing to leave for work (always a little stress when I'm not ready to go with him and we have to drive two cars) I broke down in tears because of the frustration with my injury. He took me in his arms and told me he loved me!!!! I was flabbergasted. (I think this was his first spontaneous admition of love in over a year!)<P>Then tonight (again we drove separately - we work at the same company), I got home a little early and he called. One of his European colleagues is in town and "would I mind if he went out to dinner with Paul?". He said he could cancel if it was a problem. He realized that he would be out of town next week (and not with me) and wondered what I thought about his dinner out. I told him that it would have been nice to spend the time with him, but if he thought the dinner with the co-worker would be beneficial, he should go. I was so pleased that he was considering my feelings; asking for my concurrence; and would have been willing to come right home had I asked. (This is from the man who usually just tells me what he is going to do!) (Of course the thought that he might be meeting a woman crossed my mind, but he did mention a guy I know [and I could check up if I really wanted to].)<P>And the third positive thing... that I will probably get blasted for... when H goes to Europe on Friday I'm going to spend the weekend in New Mexico. The odd thing is, I'm going to spend the time with my ex-husband. <B><I>STOP, BEFORE YOU YELL AT ME </B></I> please understand, there is nothing <B>nothing</B> except friendship between my ex and me. In fact, since my Mother's death, my ex is my only <B>family</B>. I have no brothers, sisters, parents, grandparents, children, cousins, etc etc. My ex is my only family.<P>I cleared the visit with H (POJA) and he has no problem with the visit. In fact, H understands that one of the reasons I'm taking this trip is to take my mind off his last European trip (with a side trip to see OW - approx 1 year ago to the day).<P>Already H has shown some positive changes regarding his travel. He has been very up-front in terms of his itinerary, his hotel stay, and his daily schedule. In fact, he ran his schedule by me at work (well, he ran it by all the members of our team) and all I could add was calling his lovely wife and square dancing. He told me he already had plans for the calls; thanks for reminding him of the dancing.<P>Anyway, for us, these three items are positive. Just looking forward to him coming home in an hour so that we can have some quality time before he goes overseas on Friday.<P>Regards,<P>RobinAnn

I'm glad for you...<P>I won't bust you on visiting your ex... It was very good to pass it by your husband. Do check on your H while in Europe... (let him know it(checking) is real love.<P>Thank you for your posts to me (I hate love busting.)<P>I hope the best for you on your respective trips. Please take care.<P>Jim<BR>----------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...

HI Robin, Hope you have a great visit with your family.<BR>Your h is making huge strides...not baby steps! He really is showing how much he cares for you in so many ways. He is a keeper!! <BR>Have fun and hope your pain decreases. What is going on with your ankle? Ligaments should be healing pretty well by now. cl