While in a Plan A should the BS at anytime attempt to induce feelings of loss in a WS?

So far in all my readings and study I've yet to see this answered in the affirmative. Am I wrong?

It would seem to me that Plan A would require the BS to select a chance at meeting ENs and making $LB instead of selecting a chance of inducing feelings of guilt.

If I'm wrong could someone point out to me where exactly I've misinterpreted Plan A?

Guilt is a great thing. But you should be strategic in how you use it. You shouldn't say "you loser, you have destroyed our family!!" [that creates defensiveness, not guilt.] But on the other hand, when you are hurt and are living in holy hell, you need to be tellng the WS this. Otherwise, he/she will get the idea that you don't care and are rather complacent about the abuse she is heaping on you. That is the LAST message you want to give to an abuser.

Children should be encouraged to discuss their disgust and disappointment with the WS too.

Plan A is NEVER about protecting the WS from the consequences of her crime.

When I got the ILYBNILWY speech, I hadn't found MB yet. I didn't know that there was an affair, I had been gaslighted for almost 2 years. I didn't know what to do, but I did do something correctly. I thought about what COULD happen to me and my children if my WH left. The WORST case scenario. The next day, WH called me on his way home from work. I talked calmly and told him what could happen to us financially. It didn't make him stop his affair(of course, but I also didn't KNOW that there was one) but it DID get him to agree to things to help me and my children be more financially stable than we could have been.

Plan A is about doing things with NO EXPECTATIONS. That means that you would not try to induce guilt in your WS, you would carry out your plans. If those plans happen to induce such guilt, better for the end of the affair, but there should be no expectations that it would do anything except inform the wayward.

ITA with ML that the consequences of the affair should not be kept from the WS. This does a disservice not only to the people who are affected by the affair but to the affairees themselves.