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Hold, I didn't realize you and I had been here for the same amount of time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I vaguely remember you reaching out to help Tak, and others saying I was cheerleading and such. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> WOW! And then I read your thread of mystery. (I still think GSN has the dibs on "Most Enigmatic Posts" award, but *shrug*.) But, that sounds wonderful and I hope things only get better for you! Check out my thread...um, can't remember the title at the moment (Something about 2 years and "what attracts you to MB"). I think it's going to turn into an update that I think will interest you and others who have watched my story on this board. Petals
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To HOTI: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But even knowling that I am making a choice to stay does not erase the knowledge that I was a "sucker" who foolishly made assumptions about what married life would be like. And who did not explore and investigate sufficiently before I got married. Marriage is the ultimate "buyer beware" event. And clearly I did not examine the merchandise carefully enough before pulling the trigger on this deal.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Well then I'm a pretty big SUCKER, too! (Many, many, many MB'ers qualify with that definition, btw) But me, this has been my song... I was so stupid. I was so willing to believe the best. I should have known something was up. I can kick myself better than anyone... wanna have a go? I think I got more the leaky roof... we fixed it, but it was VERY expensive. But, I was still the Queen of Suckerville <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> . You know, I write brilliant things all day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .. and I get everyone feeling down about themselves over a stupid, off the cuff remark <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> . I am sorry I got you thinking in sucker mode. I really DO NOT consider a man making the best life for his children to be in any way a sucker, no matter how he got there. That takes a LOT of character. Men in my family BAILED, or stayed home but DRUNK all the time. I'd have given anything to have a dad like you, and all I know about you is that you love your kids enough to put up with your W. I didnt want to go OT anymore on this thread, but I wanted to followup on this. Please take care - Dru
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JK, I think your (now retracted) church-dating-advice post was more rational than this thread!  My God! Do you think in eight years the active MBers then will look back on our posts today and think we are as equally lame? (Pre-empting the comments - Okay YES, some of my posts won't take eight years to reach irrelevance, and YES, some of us will likely still be here, mumbling, "More UA time, dammit!", while gruel dribbles from our slack jaws.)
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JK, I think your (now retracted) church-dating-advice post was more rational than this thread! My God! Do you think in eight years the active MBers then will look back on our posts today and think we are as equally lame? (Pre-empting the comments - Okay YES, some of my posts won't take eight years to reach irrelevance, and YES, some of us will likely still be here, mumbling, "More UA time, dammit!", while gruel dribbles from our slack jaws.)
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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JK, I think your (now retracted) church-dating-advice post was more rational than this thread! My God! Do you think in eight years the active MBers then will look back on our posts today and think we are as equally lame? (Pre-empting the comments - Okay YES, some of my posts won't take eight years to reach irrelevance, and YES, some of us will likely still be here, mumbling, "More UA time, dammit!", while gruel dribbles from our slack jaws.) Hoping that in 8 years time, folks will read our posts today and say "hey, those guys actually read the book and worked the program!" When I got here 11 years ago, it was very, very different! I think I read more about 5 love languages than I did Marriage Builders. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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