I'll start from top. I kissed and intimately touched another woman a few months ago. It was stupid and a mistake. My wife had a nervous break down and left me. Shes been gone for around two months now. She told me she needed time. Then shortly after starting time apart she meets a girl and decides to start a relationship with her. She finally tells me after running away with the woman for a weekend at the beach where they were intimate. My affair started the moment it started. I kissed and touched, I was not touched in return. She has spent two months with this woman. On and off she asks for me back. Shes on disability, shes bipolar and she says she had a severe swing shortly after i cheated. So she calls me and tells me she is done wih me, she has someone and they love each other. But since at least once a week she begs us to have another chance. But all i see is her saying she hated me and how this woman succeeds where i failed, etc. And when she asks for me back she expects me to take her back just like that. When she told me to leave, i took the hint and tried to date. Sadly the person i chose to date was one of her friends. And since my wife talked about divorce and being with someone I was intimate with her friend. Well this past tuesday me and my wife met up for me to pick up some of my things. And we talk in a public place for a while. We end up kissing and admitting we both miss each other. That we both realize our mistakes and we wish we had done things different since day one. Our 2nd wedding anniversary is December 20th and she wants us to think about things and decide what to do on that day. She barely responds to texts or emails/phone calls. I love and miss my wife if her feelings are true but how does a divorcing couple both in relationships and had affairs against one another...how do they mend? Where to even start? She left and started a relationship. Lying about what she was doing and who she was with. That this girl was a friend of a friend and meant nothing to her. I have always felt like i was in the shadow of her recent ex before me, her ex-fiancee. Because she seemed to give them more what i was given. And his woman she has been with has apparently she opened up sexually, emotionally and she apparently even learned to kiss better from this woman...

I need to know how i can make this work. I really do love her and i want to make this work. I just dont see how i can lose these abandonment feelings, this new woman sbe opened up to. She said she misses me and loves me and she wants her marriage back. So i am trying to get some help here. Can we make this work? Can we trust one another? Sorry if its all jumbled up. Just upset about all this going on. Thanks in advance.

Two years?? There was an ex-fiancee too? Oh good grief - walk away from this mess you've both created, please! Just thank your lucky stars that there are no children involved and consider your two years as a hard lesson in what NOT to do.

Howerdel,

Then shortly after starting time apart she meets a girl and decides to start a relationship with her.

Much Much more likely they had an affair going on for some time, when they actually got together it all fell apart as it does when a fantasy hits reality.

Some women don't consider doing other women cheating, but the STDs you can catch are all the same, and a lie is still a lie.

Do you know who this other womans boy friend, husband or girl friend is if so you need to talk to them.

And MIM is right if you don't have kids GET OUT NOW!

God Bless
Gamma

You kids need to grow up some more before you pursue marriage.

Your timeline is weird. I think you're a troll. Correct me if I'm wrong. You're going to have to give us better info than this. Other than that I'll assume you are a troll. With a very uninteresting life.

Folks!

I think you're a troll

I know you have the best of intentions, but can we keep from name calling until we have a preponderance of evidence.

When I read what he wrote I thought English was not his primary language, therefore the odd constructions which could be construed as troll,

In any event he is likely more articulate in English then most of us are in his language, so cut some slack.

God Bless
Gamma