It's been over a year since I came to marriagebuilders.
When I was posting on the site before, it was about my (then) fiance taking another woman out dancing.

Very briefly, what's happened since is that through the first woman, he met another woman. He dumped me for her last year. I hadn't even had time to gather my thoughts when I arrived home from work, 3 weeks after he dumped me, to find her clothes hanging next to mine in the en suite. A week later, literally a truck-load of her possessions arrived in the house.


I refused to leave the house and managed to survive by going to work very early and returning from work very late. He spent every night of the week out with her in his Winnebago. This situation carried on for some time until he arrived "home" one night and barged into what had become my room, demanding that I had to settle as he had high blood pressure.

That was one bully too many. The moment I could escape, I ran. I spent 6 weeks being "displaced". I lived for months in a caravan at a camping site on the harbour's edge.
All the while, I continued to go to work each day.

This siutatoin took its toll on my physical health. My mental health suffered enormously. A friend saw me rapidly heading downhill. A cheap house was bought.

As I have decades of building experience, it was agreed that I would renovate the do-er upper house. This is what I'm now doing.

Of course, as soon as I left, the new woman moved into the jointly owned house. Less than a year after he dumped me, my ex married for the second time to the woman - it was her fourth marriage.

Previously, I wrote that I suspected he has Aspergers. Expert opinion is that it is highly likely that this is the case. What's more, it's equally likely that the new woman also had Aspergers.

Meanwhile, I have met someone but the relationshp isn't plain sailing. He too was with an Aspergers for qutie some time. We've both been scared. I'm very wary indeed about getting involved and him, well, his daughter runs his life. She has said that he's not allowed to get involved with anyone. She says he's allowed only a companion.

Your thoughts?

I'd say keep looking.

AGG

agreed.

I'd say stop looking and take a break from men. And no more Aspergers (my ex fiance is too). Why bite off more problems? Concentrate on your home, your healing and if and when the time is right, you'll meet someone more up to snuff.

Good luck, and I'm sorry you've been through so much. It takes a lot of tenacity to stay in a relationship with an Aspie, but then maybe it's better to let go...