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If I didn't have this place and an amazing DH - things wouldn't be good right now. And if you hadn't been willing to change in an intentional fashion to learn new behaviors. Don't forget to credit yourself!
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Thanks markos - Personal choice and will to change, the only way change is possible.
Me & DH: 28 Married 8/20/05 1DD, 9 mo. Just Lookin' and Learnin' HIYA!
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I would rather hope that it turns out good for everyone, instead of just saying they are doomed. I would rather hope that they all beat the odds, the adults and the kids. It does happen, yes the chances might be small, but I would rather be optimistic that its one of those times. I would rather hope that parents don't behave like pigs and sacrifice the well being of their children in pursuit of their depravity. I would rather hope that little boys don't have to see their mother acting like a skank with a married man. I would rather hope that little girls don't have to see their fathers acting like a degenerate with a married woman. I would rather than hope that parents would work to turn a bad marriage around rather than destroying so many lives. But.......hope is not reality, is it? 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML,
So many negative thoughts.
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ML,
So many negative thoughts. Yep. And they all stem from discussing the fallout of adultery.
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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ML,
So many negative thoughts. Yes, adultery is very negative. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML,
So many negative thoughts. Yes, adultery is very negative. Most of us here have lived through adultery....and our children... unfortunately my DS and I have been through hell and back....We are doing better but I know I am definitely worse for the wear...Its hurts your soul...and my DS he is doing well, but misses having a father living at home...This affair has not made him better or happier. We are happy now though, but the wounds are deep.. My WH and OW are prolly HAPPY...but at what cost...the cost of unending pain for everyone else involved...so sorry if I dont wish the adulterers well.... So Tom you can be optimistic all you want...The rest of us, who have lived through it, will be realistic.
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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I AM optimistic about world peace though. Lets hope for that...
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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