Hi Ya'll. I've got another thread running, but am anxious to get a reply.

This was a terrible, terrible night...for ME!

Was supposed to go to hockey game with WH(friends sold me tickets before right before D-day). Long story short. Sold tickets to friends of the friend-no worries, right?(WH must have txt me 3 times to c if I was going or not, whatever)

DS2 & I decide to go to Wal-mart, 17 miles from home. Get to Wal-mart, open door, lock door, get out. Get in walmart and realize, I don't have the keys/fob on me, OMG, keys are LOCKED IN CAR!!

**** note: ends up the reason the keys/fob were not in the care was my purse was on the passenger side, son got in car and threw my purse on driver seat. keys must have fallen out of purse and when I opened the door, they fell out.

Call AAA, they send, not 1 but 2 numnuts who can't open the car. The car uses a fob to open and to start the car.

I have been carrying BOTH sets of keys on me because I don't trust that WH won't come and take car from me.

I remember we did sign up for ONSTAR but I didn't think we had paid after our trial period was up. It was worth a shot. Called and 10 minuts later the car was UNLOCKED! AMAZING!

Get in car, car won't start. NO FOB! Car will drive without the fob in the car, but once the car is shut off, it won't start.

Called OnStar back, they cannot remotely start car.crap!

Called a friend to ask about overriding fob, can't be done. crap!

My dad's out of town until tomorrow. crap!

My DS1 is on a date, can't get a hold of him. crap!

CRAP! CRAP! CRAP! CRAP!

What's left for me to do? Call WH. No, that's not a crap, that's a [bleep] [bleep] [bleepin] [bleep]!!!!!

I'm trying to be INDEPENDENT and not rely on him.

I give in and call him.

Wouldn't tell me where he was but he did say he would go to house and try and find them. He called back, they were in the driveway. He brought them, gave me a small lecture on why I should always make sure I have that fob on me(I guess OW was upset WH came to help me, so he probably won't be helping me in the future).

DS2 and I thanked him and thanked him, told him we appreciated him and see ya tomorrow. I asked him if he'd like to join us for our xmas eve dinner. we both work Xmas eve and Xmas day eve. WH always liked my cooking, and I love to cook. He seemed kind of shocked I would invite him (don't know why he'd be like that) then he THANKED me, which I thought was weird. Can't wait to see how long he stays, since OW will be kidless from tomorrow until Jan 2, I'm sure he'll have to go back and get his skank on.

Made it home safe. He went to OW apt.

Was this a LB? I'm thinking it is. It makes me look NEEDY and IRRISPONSIBLE. WH can't stand NEEDY and IRRISPONSIBLE women. That was one reason he loved me because I wasn't needy or irrisponsible. Now look at me...

Sorry so long, but I know how ya'll love details. I'm kinda into details myself.

Thanks guys and gals.

Any advice on how to handle the dinner tomorrow will be appreciated, as this is part of my big PlanA send off, before PlanB starts in Jan.

your kids were with you, therefore you had an obligation to call him and ask for help when all other resources were exhausted, as well as he was obligated to help you because your kids were there. that is my opinion. but im new to all this stuff. i think you did the right thing and i wouldnt count it as an LB.

RULE NUMBER 1
"Don't sweat the small stuff!"
RULE NUMBER 2
"It's all small stuff!"

Seriously, you did what had to be done (after trying almost everything else in creation), and contacted the person who could fix the problem. He was able to come through. Good.

If the situation had been reversed, with him and your kids stranded, would you have resented him calling you for help to get them safely home? (Uhhhh, if the answer to that one is "Yes", don't tell me. I'd rather keep envisioning you and other folks on this site as decent humans!)

ok, it's small stuff.

sometimes small stuff turns into BIG stuff.

Yes, if I were a cheating, lying, deceitful, disrespectul, hurtful, cruel, selfish, fantasyland living kinda woman I would still help him out.

I just didn't want to seem needy.

Thanks.

He was probably mad only because his OW gave him a ration of crap before he came to rescue you.

In an odd way, there was probably a very weird way of making a LB deposit in this. He got a step up in the holier-than-thou dept, which is a way of getting an ego-stroke for some people. He drove over there muttering about it all, hearing OW's griping voice ringing in his ears, and drove back noting to himself how he has to rescue you, saying to himself that you need him and the kids need him and wondering what might happen in the long run.

Then, he gets to OW's and she gripes about the time spent with you, prodding about what YOU said, what YOU did, what YOU looked like, what YOU were wearing, how YOU acted, and the whole time he is thinking about how he wished she would just shut up because that is NOT what he bargained for.

It was actually quieter where you were....


So you threw a few bombs in affair land.

Yes, if I were a cheating, lying, deceitful, disrespectul, hurtful, cruel, selfish, fantasyland living kinda woman I would still help him out.

What I MEANT was even if he, the well-known cheating, lying, deceitful, disrespectul, hurtful, cruel, selfish, fantasyland living kinda man, was stranded with your kids tomorrow, would you as the only resource, help them out?

But, I like your take better!