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#2456050 12/23/10 12:55 PM
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About five years ago I signed onto this website for help in despair.

My husband had an affair.

I was broken, crying, searching, despondent.

Marriage Builders and the people on the threads brought me and my marriage back to the land of the living.

I am forever grateful.

There have been a couple of times that I have tried to leave, but for whatever reasons I have come back to the boards.

I'm going dark for awhile again. Things are great in my life, and I need some time to get some things done. One or two things need to be left behind so I can do one or two other things.

To everyone here, I wish them peace, and ANSWERS.

Love,
Schoolbus


Lucky to be where I am, in a safe place to get marriage-related support.
Recovered.
Happy.
Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
schoolbus #2456071 12/23/10 01:42 PM
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I know what you are saying. I guess we all have things to do.

God Bless you Schoolbus and family this Christmas.


But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
schoolbus #2456077 12/23/10 01:59 PM
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Come back when you can, schoolbus! We'll miss you until then!


D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!

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Thank you for all you have given, schoolbus.

You are a very special and talented woman.

Take care (and come back soon)

schoolbus #2456090 12/23/10 02:29 PM
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OMGosh schoolbus!!

We'll miss you! Nooo

Do what cha gotta do but don't stay gone too long!

At least visit once in awhile so we know you're OK!!

kiss


Dday- Feb 1998
Recovered!!
Nerlycrzy #2456138 12/23/10 05:19 PM
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SchoolBus,

Your presence here will be missed more profoundly than you realize. Having said this, I do know that you are doing the right thing for you and your family.

Have a Great Christmas and a better New Year.

You will be missed.

JL

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We'll miss you muchly. You will still be here though, through your words. We will quote them and read them and I for one can say that I have been helped by words I have read that you have written. Thanx.


BW(Me)aka Scotty:37
DSx2: 10,12
DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09
Plan B Dec18/09
Personal R in works
Scotty's THING laugh
Newly Betrayed click here


Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.
? Maya Angelou

PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

THANK YOU
Scotland #2456195 12/23/10 08:52 PM
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Merry Christmas SB


Me:BW
Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10
3DstepChildren24&20
PlanA:01/03/10
PlanB:03/25/10
D final 11/15/10

"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
mymissy #2456218 12/23/10 11:44 PM
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You'll be missed

schoolbus #2456502 12/25/10 09:18 PM
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Dear Schoolbus:

I'm so sorry to see you go. If it were not for CGIR connecting with you, I don't believe that we would be married today.

And you've been the only one who I've felt understands the way I've been thinking about things and encouraged me to keep working, as opposed to telling me, in one way or another, to "get over it."

CGIR and I hope you will return at some point to see how we are doing.

THANK YOU, and best wishes -

BV


Me - WW/BW - 49
Him - CGIR - WH/BH 49
Married 27 years, together 33 (HS sweethearts)
No kids
DDay #1 - 1989 EA co-worker
DDay #2 - 2004 internet porn
DDay #3 - July 2006 EA different co-worker
DDay #4 - Aug. 2006 EA with OW #2 was actually a PA
DDay #5 - Sept. 2010 False recovery - H dishonest about both affairs and porn usage
DDay# 6 - Sept. 26, 2010 - Full disclosure - 1989 EA was actually a PA and lasted one year. 2006 PA more extensive than originally thought. 1992 ONS with prostitute.
brokenvase #2456538 12/26/10 02:12 AM
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God bless you, SB. Thank you for sharing your gifts with so many of us on this board. Please know that you are appreciated and will be missed during your break.

Hope and I discuss your posts often. We are big fans of yours. We are both waiting for the day when the OW's wails are louder than ours.

That is my favorite post of yours. How to tell when the affair is over.

Yes, we are all looking for answers. Thanks for helping us get some of those answers.




M 25 yrs, 3 teens
Dday 12/07
5ish False Recoveries (all in 2008)
12/08 WH moves in w/OW, her kids
Plan B/D/FU -- depending on the day
He files 1/09; D final 12/2012
"I'm moving on"

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