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Is it appropriate for married male coworker to send a married female coworker a holiday card addressed to her home with greeting only for her? If I'm mailing a card to a family address, as a courtesy I add greetings for coworker and family - I don't think I would mail it to a coworker's home with greeting only addressed to him. That wouldn't seem right to me.
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I think it's crude and tacky. So yes, I think it's inappropriate.
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I would actually agree with Fred here. When cards are mailed to a home, it should be addressed to the couple or the family for Christmas. It is disrespectful (especially during this season) to leave family members off.
Now with some of my coworkers we have given individual cards/gifts to one another at school, that is different. Some also send out cards to peoples homes, but again, that is addressed to the whole family, from their whole family.
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If this is what he sends to the female co-worker's home, you can only imagine the cards he sends her in the workplace.
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If this is what he sends to the female co-worker's home, you can only imagine the cards he sends her in the workplace. Perhaps he's not been affected by infedility and so he doesn't look at it this way. I hate receiving cards as they all just go in the trash anyway, and I don't send 'em. But if I was, I have no idea if I'd mail it with the family last name or just the person's name I knew. If I hadn't seen the opinions on this thread, I doubt it would have even crossed my mind as appropriate or not appropriate as far as sending a card to a coworker with just their name or not. My wife has a number of coworkers that send cards out to the other people that they work with. Some are same sex, some opposite...nearly all of them are addressed to my wife (and not me or us) on teh enveolope with some generic "wishing your family a happy holiday" on the inside. Doesn't bother me...don't see a problem with it.
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K_T, I probably would not have seen a problem with this either until I realized that XWH thought it was GREAT that he could relate to his female co-workers "just as people" and not have to be bothered with their husbands, kids, etc.
It just added to the high school atmosphere in the corporate workplace which has destroyed a number of marriages.
It is very disrespectful and a very big red flag to relate to a married person as if they are single, simply ignoring and disregarding that perons's spouses and children. I wish I had known this a long time ago.
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If this is what he sends to the female co-worker's home, you can only imagine the cards he sends her in the workplace. Perhaps he's not been affected by infedility and so he doesn't look at it this way. I hate receiving cards as they all just go in the trash anyway, and I don't send 'em. But if I was, I have no idea if I'd mail it with the family last name or just the person's name I knew. If I hadn't seen the opinions on this thread, I doubt it would have even crossed my mind as appropriate or not appropriate as far as sending a card to a coworker with just their name or not. My wife has a number of coworkers that send cards out to the other people that they work with. Some are same sex, some opposite...nearly all of them are addressed to my wife (and not me or us) on teh enveolope with some generic "wishing your family a happy holiday" on the inside. Doesn't bother me...don't see a problem with it. KT, the way you said it there I think is fine. If the envelope is addressed to one person, but the card actually recognizes the family, I think that is fine. It is when the card only recognizes one person, that is just rude. You don't have to put everyones name in the family, you may not know them all. But to be polite others in the home should be recognized.
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I only send cards to the entire family at Christmas time. In fact, our Christmas card is us...photos of our family. So there's no way anything gets confused.
What I'd be concerned wtih is the message in the card itself. What did it say?
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