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This is just a thought, please forgive me for even thinking it. Is it possible that she might have someone else in her life already? Sorry, again I am sure this is a dumb question but though I would throw it out there..I hope there isn't anyone for her...
Yes, revenge-affairs do happen, but the percentages say that this isn't the case. You have your own issues & your wife's needs to focus on. In your particular situation, snooping around on your betrayed spouse (the logical destination for you if you were to be diverted by lovemywifesc's rambling) is probably the last thing you need to be worrying about right now.
I hope you guys are having a good Christmas as best you can.
Me: FWH, 50
My BW: Trust_Will_Come, 52, tall, beautiful & heart of gold
DD23, DS19
EA-then-PA Oct'08-Jan'09
Broke it off & confessed to BW (after OW's H found out) Jan.7 2009
Married 25 years & counting.
Grateful for forgiveness. Working to be a better husband.
"I wear the chain I forged in life... I made it link by link, and yard by yard" ~Jacob Marley's ghost, A Christmas Carol
"Do it again & you're out on your [bum]." ~My BW, Jan.7 2009
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sorry to just now be getting back to you. My intentions of my post were to say, that your wife had deep hurt from her adulterous father and abandonment issues. I compared it to my sexual abuse. Your adultery was the same as her father's stirring up many memories. Yes, you only said how good the other woman is the day of, however it was like a rape. How dare you say such a thing in front of your wife, when in fact this "good woman" had no respect for your wife or your marriage.
Aka it's like you slapped her in the face all over again.
I instincts in saying I wanted to slap you is you had been appearing to only want to rent until your wife was determinded to buy.
I am glad to see some change in attitude in you, putting yourself in her shoes. She feels she has come last for years.
I relate to your wife, in that the triggers you inflicted on her
she feels brought up past feelings of inadeqancies etc.
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