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Here is an interesting twist! It has been about two weeks since we called off the engagment and decided to be 'friends'. I talked to her today concerning theater tickets we had purchased months ago. I wanted to find out if she still wanted to go with me as friends, or use my ticket and go with somebody else.

She asked me if I was having any luck on with the online dating. I told her that so far I have not seriously pursued that avenue (I have looked, I have not yet created a public profile. It's still somewhat early.)

The more I think about this, the more I feel it was an unwarrented question. After all, we would still be lovers and maybe even married except for her withdrawal of affections. I think I have the right to seek female company as I choose and I should not have to inform anybody. Or, am I being too uptight about this?

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It's not definitive, but that could be a sign that she feels some guilt about the breakup and wants to know you've moved on to relieve some of that guilt. Put it another way, if you end up with someone else, then it was all right, but if you're hurt then she has to deal with the possiblity that she has some blame in that.


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Thanks dkd, I had not thought of that possibility. I was seeing it as being more possesive, not letting go of the previous accountability we had towards each other. But, maybe I am wrong

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I don't know why she would assume you are seeing anyone when your breakup is so recent. Jim and I split up 4 1/2 months ago and neither of us is dating. Perhaps it was her way of checking on you to find out. I don't think I'd answer that because you're right, it's none of her business. Just because someone asks doesn't mean you owe them an answer.

It is hard to be friends with an ex. We're trying it, mainly because we like each other, but it is difficult...I still have feelings for him and yet am trying to get over it, and when you have constant contact, it makes it more difficult to do so. Good luck!


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