Tom,
Thanks for your concern. You have been a major backer of me and my family, and I appreciate that.
I am hanging in there. I took the girls to my hometown for Christmas, and they had a blast playing with my sisters and parents. We saw cousins, went to a kids amusement park and church services, and played lots of games. DD2 is turning into quite the daddy's girl, following me around at parties and my parents, so her change is fun for me.
I haven't posted in awhile because of the excessive negativity and even abuse of some vets. It's one thing to disagree with my tactics. It's another to disparage me. I don't need it; my family doesn't need it. We need support, inspiration, and advice rather than personal attacks, doom-saying, and despair. I agree that my plans A and B have not been well executed at times. But often, as in the disagreement about when to execute my Plan B, vets never gave a substantive objection to Dr. H's advice to go to Plan B AFTER going trick or treating with WW. That said, vets gave me praise at the time for exposing. It's just that right now I feel bitter toward some vets and posters rather than enlightened by them.
On the bright side, I have found that Dr. H himself will help me. In addition to having me on his radio show, he has responded to my personal emails. Ultimately I'm on this site because of him, although I appreciate the technical advice, especially legal, that some vets give me.
That's it for now. I will post more on my own thread later.
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Me: BH, 40 (and no longer jobless; just broke)
Her: WW, 33
Never lived together
Married 6 years; together 10 years
2 young kids (DD3.5 and DD1.8)
Her EA: Fall '08
She moves out of our home: 10/16/09
Informally separated
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
Exposed to 12 of my WW's and the OM's friends and family members plus all of my immediate family members and some extended family
In plan A at Dr. Bill Harley's advice since May '10; about to go to Plan B
Have talked with lawyer twice; hate it
Her region is a 50/50 custody area
OM stopped working with her 08/10
Wife asks lawyer for legal separation 12/10
