My comment was not meant to be a big thing JL, just my observation, however, "but you were too much of an emotional mess to handle the growth you needed," that is pretty much of a judgement. I actually think Harm is pretty damned strong emotionally for what she has gone thru, but I would not say that she is not.

This probably is a small point, but I believe the way someone couches terms could get someone who is going thru emotional distress to become a little more dependent than need be. I just vaguely recall from scanning her thread just a couple of other similar comments back earlie in Dec.

I have seen your advice before, especially to the really resistant and uncertain BH's, and I respect it. In this case tho I really believe that Harmony needs some time, however short, to implement her Plan B, and then come back to the well with reports and questions.

If we disagee, then so be it...it is just my philosophy.

Tom