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FWW recently said:
"Our M was worse than your infidelity" (after hearing Dr Harley speak on how infidelity is by far the worse thing that you can do to your spouse and is reportedly worse than losing a child or being raped). Is this borne out of lessening the impact of her own A's? If the M was so bad then she had plenty opportunity to leave.
FWW also seems more concerned about "will this M be better in the future? I need reassurance" though less concerned about applying the principles (scheduling UA, PoRH).
Through the trickle truth, I get the feeling that FWW is trying to manipulate the situation so that she can get R without having us actually be entirely O&H; not only about the A's but also about feelings and thoughts.
Since the A's are in the distant past; I dont fear 'something going on' currently (everything is monitored and most EPs are in place).
So what does such behaviour indicate?
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No takers? 
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I'll plainly say it's disrespectul and reeks of fogbabble.
Get your var and keylogger and maybe a PI ready. She isn't out of fog yet or is in serious withdrawal.
Personally, I don't call 8/15/10 distant past. But that's just me. My xwh and I were in a false recovery for about 4.5 months when I found out it had gone further underground, even eminating its' adultery stank from a few states away. (where monkeyho lives in TN)
Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right. ~Jane Goodall
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Sorry; the DDays I have documented are the days I was 'told' about A(s) in '05-06 and in late '09. Should I change those to make more sense?
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