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On the levitra WH instructions taking this was take one a hour before having sex. So I ask what does this have to do with stress? I know man and women are quite different but like u said he is only 51 and never had any problems in that department

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Fwiw, my xh used to use that along with (this is what I found in his vehicle...had it sent of and analyzed and he used viagra)with ectasy. My xh NEVER used any drugs and I never have either, but apparently in the cheatin' realm, that is a concoction that is big on the party scene. I had no idea what I had found in his suv (it was in a tiny plastic bag) but I had it analyzed and gave to the pi). Saved it for court btw! You should do the same.

I found a tiny plastic bag in the dash. Truthfully, I was looking for tell tale signs of the ow for the private eye. and that was what I found instead. frown

When my xh did that, he was 33 years old. He didn't need it either. But then again, monkeyho was only attractive if you moved about 20 feet away. Maybe that was why. (evil laugh)

If your wh is doing that, I can tell you there is a very interesting side effect to it. If they do that, it could cause a very nasty reaction (the pi told me) and they get it up but they can't get it down and have to go to the ER and even possibly surgery!

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omg Why r WHS so dumb. I will keep the bottle it came n. He goes to the sam Wal Greens every month to get them. The Dr only gives him 6 pills a month. BTW we have the same Dr. which we r friends with. Thank u for telling me about the side affects (priceless lol)

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I am telling u guys with this WH it is always something!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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all of this only confirms what i have always believed: that As are mostly about sex and the guys starting to have a hard time getting it up. It is all about them finding new excitement with an OW that gets them going below the belt for a while.
Till the action there is good then the A is good and the OW is great....when the action down there fades then they try medication to keep it good for a while longer....
It sounds like bad outcome no matter how you look at it.
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Originally Posted by atena
all of this only confirms what i have always believed: that As are mostly about sex and the guys starting to have a hard time getting it up. It is all about them finding new excitement with an OW that gets them going below the belt for a while.

I'm not so sure As are mostly about guys starting to have a hard time getting it up (why do 20yos have As?), but I do think some of what you're saying is pretty universal: the chase of the thrill, excitement, novelty, lust.


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Originally Posted by atena
all of this only confirms what i have always believed: that As are mostly about sex and the guys starting to have a hard time getting it up. It is all about them finding new excitement with an OW that gets them going below the belt for a while.
Till the action there is good then the A is good and the OW is great....when the action down there fades then they try medication to keep it good for a while longer....
It sounds like bad outcome no matter how you look at it.
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I'm not so sure about that. I mean, if the OW was getting them going below the belt, they wouldn't need medication to 'get it up'.

I suspect the medication is to ensure they don't disappoint OW or embarrass themselves in the sex act department.


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Affairs are all lies, including hiding the viagra from OW. How pathetic.

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It is pathetic. I am like I know this kid is legal (just turned 21 n Sept) but we knew this child since 12 years old. Thats the part that makes me ill. She is known as the neighborhood ho. 3 kids already. What n the heck do they have to talk about "Sponge Bob" or "Dora". I ran into her Dad today at the store and that man look like he has aged overnight. He came over to me and kept saying I am so sorry. I gave him a big hug and told him he has nothing to be sorry for. I didnt take her crush on my WH serious enough. OW has a wonderful father and my WH needs to apologize to this man for messing with his child bottom line.

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I think that a lot of men who don't have problems in the sex department have the notion that Viagra/other drugs will enhance their sexual experience...maybe enabling them to "last" longer or something like that.

One of my H's single friends told him that he wasn't having any problem with sex, but he got some Viagra anyway. He said that if it was good for men who couldn't do much, he figured it ought to make his sexual experiences even better.


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Hey guys. Just to let u guys know we have put our house on the market. We are going to do a short sale. WH knows that I will never go back into that house again except to move the rest of my things. WH ask me if I wanted to go look for another house with him. I told him no. Our relationship is not right by a long shot. I am giving him 2 more weeks of plan A and that's it and then its up to him if I go to plan B. I am so tired and sad guys. Today I slept all day. My DD was worried about me. I have not been sleeping well for a couple of days. I went to see my Doctor Thrusday and was told I lost another 7 pounds (I wear a size 5 now) The AD I am taking are not working for me so he change them with something else. I am getting bad migraines again. I am trying to hang in there guys. Thanks for all ur help

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Originally Posted by vivi
Hey guys. Just to let u guys know we have put our house on the market. We are going to do a short sale. WH knows that I will never go back into that house again except to move the rest of my things. WH ask me if I wanted to go look for another house with him. I told him no. Our relationship is not right by a long shot. I am giving him 2 more weeks of plan A and that's it and then its up to him if I go to plan B. I am so tired and sad guys. Today I slept all day. My DD was worried about me. I have not been sleeping well for a couple of days. I went to see my Doctor Thrusday and was told I lost another 7 pounds (I wear a size 5 now) The AD I am taking are not working for me so he change them with something else. I am getting bad migraines again. I am trying to hang in there guys. Thanks for all ur help
Vivi, don't go for a short sale if you can help it. Is your mortgage higher than the market value of your house?

Do you have a realtor?


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When we bought the house in 2001, we were paying $850.00 a month. we have a 2nd on it and now we are paying $1250.00 a month for a 4 bedroom 2 bath, living rm and family rm. We lve n AZ and that's high. I don't know too much on short sales and I have heard horror stories regarding short sales by my WH suggested it and I am having 2nd thoughts on it. we have an Realtor

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I will talk to my WH regarding the short sale because I really dont want to do it at all. The Realtor is coming to the house Monday to put the sign and lockbox up and I need to be there.

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@vivi -

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I told him no. Our relationship is not right by a long shot. I am giving him 2 more weeks of plan A and that's it and then its up to him if I go to plan B.

Look at you!

You know what you want and you won't settle for less.

hurray

Take a bow and pat yourself on the back.

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Thank u. The wonderful people on this thread gave me the strength and courage to believe in myself. I am so serious about this. I know I have been a good wife to my WH and he knows it too. As for Skanky, she has lost a godparent to her children forever. Some of my family members think I shouldn't punish the babies for their wrong doing but it is what it is and I don't have a choice in this matter. My WH and skanky made it like that. I missed them but they are not my kids. I do have a heart and it aches for them sometimes but I have to move on without them.

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As I sit here thinking we r selling our home because my WH couldn't keep hs friend in his pants. His friend slept next to has wife every night and had a place to go without leaving their house. How sad and pitiful is that. WS friend wasn't too bright

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Originally Posted by vivi
When we bought the house in 2001, we were paying $850.00 a month. we have a 2nd on it and now we are paying $1250.00 a month for a 4 bedroom 2 bath, living rm and family rm. We lve n AZ and that's high. I don't know too much on short sales and I have heard horror stories regarding short sales by my WH suggested it and I am having 2nd thoughts on it. we have an Realtor
vivi, the only time you need to consider a short sale would be if your closing costs and the payoff amount of your mortgage is higher than what you can sell the house for. Is this the case? I know that's happening a lot in distressed real estate markets, but the crunch of short sales has been easing up lately. You may be able to sell it and pay off your mortgages.

But let's not get ahead of ourselves. Talk to your realtor first. He should be able to give you a listing quote that will tell you what your estimated closing costs will be in order to sell your house. You'll need to give him dollar amounts for the balances on your mortgages. If you're worried about a possible short sale, make sure he knows those figures.


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This information is very helpful to me. Thank you and I will talk to our realtor about this. To be quite honest I was half listening to the realtor and my WH. This is so stressful on top of everything else going on in messed life right now.

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hi, I am new here and having trouble accessing this thread. I can't seem to get past page 54.

Vivi, I hope everything is well with you. You seem to be a very strong person. As everyone has said to you, just think of your self first. You must go on with your life, don't sit around waiting for your husband to come to his senses. Life is too short

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