Thank you all for your support, but I really have to think before I expose. It just seems such a big step with unimaginable consequences. That may not be good at all.
Sorry for my doubts, but are you saying that exposure works every time? Really? It seems hard to believe...

You ask does it work every time??

YES

I was a WW and it took wheels 4 months to finally expose, in which in thos 4 months my affair...

Became more intense
I wanted to leave wheels and the kids
I was more confused the ever
I was more depressed
etc...
the list can go on..

If he did expose 4 months earlier we would have had an extra 4 months of recovery!!

Till this day I ask him..

"why didn't you expose earlier??"

Any WS on here will tell you exactly the same thing.

A's are like a cancer that must be cut out and killed. Don't allow it to spread and kill the (marriage) body. It DOES work. Expose! It may not feel right to you, but it is the right thing to do if you wish to save your marriage.

Emilia,
I know the attitude here in Europe about A is that they happen....especially in the north where they are a lot more accepting and open about sexual behaviour.
However, by integrity and moral standards (and I am not talking religious here, just morality in general) your WH is doing something despeakable, horrible.
You are pregnant and he is sleeping with OW, you know it, everyone knows it and everyone, including YOU is ok with it.
Your WH sound entitled and wayward to the core. I recognize his speech because it is like a copy of what my WH used to tell me. He made me believe everything was my fault when he actually was the one who always had a wondering eye and always looked for something "better".
He had 2 affairs. The first one I did not expose, so not even 3 years later he has another one.
I should have snooped on this second one because his behavior was strange and he told me he wanted to separate, but I did not. Then, a year and a few month later, when I finally exposed, the A was so entrenched that he had fallen in love with OW totally and left the M for her.
Now he has completely lost his mind for her.
Too much time has gone by now (the A is almost 3 years old and has been exposed for almost 1 and half years). However, even if he comes to his senses now...I do not want him back any more.
So the M is doomed.
Please, please...do not make my same mistake. Expose now. YOu will lose your WH for sure if you continue this way. Once your baby is born things are usually always harder for a couple and that will drive him away from you even more!!!!
Do not believe for a minute that the birth of your child will help.
I am sorry to tell you these hard things. But just open your eyes. By exposing you have everything to gain and nothing to lose.
I am glad I exposed. If I had not done so, WH would have told a bunch of lies to my son, his parents and friends and job people.
Now everyone knows and he is basically isolated himself. It is only WH and OW now meeting all his needs.
I am sure he is happy and having lots of fun...however he looks like uncle Fester....
Please expose Emilia!
Blessing