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#2464638 01/16/11 01:43 PM
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I know you expose to family and friends of both parties involved in the affair. What about the church? In this case, it's temple but do you expose to the leader of the temple of the other woman?

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@Lunia2009 -

You expose to all the people that can put pressure on WS and OP to break the fantasy of the Affair. It also leads to consequences for the Affair.

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yes, you expose to all people who can put pressure. A temple is a good place and the people there will put pressure.
Adultery is morally wrong whether one is religious or not. There are certain rules societies across the globe have estabilished for 1,000s of years that are tabus, things you do not do, like incest, murder, adultery, theft.
No matter how many excuses people will put forward when you expose, such as: those things happen or well...it takes 2 for a failed M (this one someone told me just yesterday...) do not get discouraged.
Some people have committed adultery themselves so when you expose they will not be on your side, but the majority will,
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What about the church? In this case, it's temple but do you expose to the leader of the temple of the other woman?
Not only do you do so, but your greatest hope is that this hypocritical skank-ho occupies a position of some prominence in her religious organization - temple council, youth advisory group, whatever.

Do not limit yourself in acquiring targets for your exposure-grams. PTA member? Girl/boy scout leader? DAR? Community theatre trustee? All good, and the more the....well, "merrier" might be the wrong term, so how about "juicier"?

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Originally Posted by Lunia2009
I know you expose to family and friends of both parties involved in the affair. What about the church? In this case, it's temple but do you expose to the leader of the temple of the other woman?

Absolutely! Church leaders can be very influential in an affair. Some churches will even kick them out if they don't end the affair.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Any tips on what to write? Should it be a letter or is an email enough?

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Lunia, I might send an email to a small handful of church leaders. [if you send it to just one or two people, it is easier for them to sweep it under the rug] Give them the facts, tell them you are trying to save your marriage and ask them to use their influence to persuade the OW to leave your husband alone.

Give them the facts and be sure and give your full name and contact # so they can reach you with any follow up questions.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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