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I am going to simplfy this story because it will take up 10 pages so here it goes. H had/is having a 5 year affair. He has done and said so many unthinkable things...snuck out the basement and pushed his car down the street,had notes from her in the car and 10 of the same picture for me to find, called her numerous times from our home phone...left me too many times to count(usually when intoxicated) and promised me time after time that the affair was over. At first he had no remorse and wanted to leave..now he wants to stay and work on the marriage. Bottom line..I cant trust him..he has done and said so many things..I had to quit my job because OW worked with me and she would go out and meet him for lunch
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and change her clothes so I would know she saw him...she has text me, emailed me, called my home..It has taken a toll on me. My self esteem has suffered. We are sinking finacially...which of course he blames me for. I just dont know where to go or what to do anymore. I am not close to my parents anymore because of this and I have lost a lot! I am a college educated person. I have many talents and I was raised in a great family...I cant live in this turmoil anymore..and I need help fast! I am losing everything..and to be honest..I am so jaded now. I hate everything when I used to love everything..I feel so guilty and so responsible for his affair..I nag..but I nag because I am so very unhappy..and I just need stability...and Im not getting that.. I blame myself for everything that has happened and fear that if one little thing goes wrong he will be right back with her. He has had many opportunites to leave..but chooses to stay. HELP ME...before I drown!
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Oh we have been married for almost 9 years..together for 12 and we have 2 children. I have known him since I was 16.
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Welcome to Marriage Builders, going. Sorry you've had to find your way here.
Questions: Is your WH still in contact with OW?
Why have you not changed all of your contact points? ie your cell phone, house phone, email address, etc? The OW should not be calling you.
Who knows about this A other than you?
What has your WH done to show his sincerity in wanting to recover your M?
D-Day 2-10-2009
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