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ahh!
during the divorce court i agreed that she can claim her school fees, her medical fees and HER house on taxes (her boyfriend bought her a trailer to live in a park).
so what does she do? she says since HER name is on the house im living in now she can claim it by herself on her tax's!
[censored] this is insane. you think after 18 years you would know a person. Turns out she is vindictive, mean, and greedy.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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Who can claim what should have been spelled out in the settlement agreement, no?
Have you asked a tax advisor if she can do that?
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D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I guess she talked to her attorney and told her to knock it off. she called today and said we can both claim the main house.
just still amazes me.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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sigh. really i need to learn not to talk to her on the phone and whatnot.
when we were in Reconciliation we were trying to set up a family game night. just never worked out she was always busy with "homework" on the weekends.
well the other day my daughter mentioned that she is going to beat hannah (my ex's younger sister) at monapoly and my ex admited she is having a family game night.
i called later and said that hurt that now they are doing it and inviting her "friend" (thats all she claims he is) over. she said he was not comeing over and i was welcome to come.
so i call her tonight about it. and she says "oh you can come over..but i have to warn you David is here" WTF ahh.
I still love her. i want to fix it. I really need to get it in my head that she does not love me ahh.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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Well, it doesn't sound like she's acting loving towards you in that situation. Even a bit callous inviting you over with the OM there.
I may get 2x4d for this, but I wonder what the outcome would have been if you went anyway? I mean, she did invite you. I wonder what would happen if your confidence in yourself was great enough to go be with your family in that situation, and be the loving person, and fun dad, that you are?
That would take some big kahunas. I'm not sure if I find that scenario impressive, or crazy.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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Well, it doesn't sound like she's acting loving towards you in that situation. Even a bit callous inviting you over with the OM there.
I may get 2x4d for this, but I wonder what the outcome would have been if you went anyway? I mean, she did invite you. I wonder what would happen if your confidence in yourself was great enough to go be with your family in that situation, and be the loving person, and fun dad, that you are?
That would take some big kahunas. I'm not sure if I find that scenario impressive, or crazy. lol you can't believe how close i came to going over. though i thought it over and figured that wouldn't be a good idea. i don't need to end up in jail or t he hospital heh.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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Hahahaha....I was thinking along the lines of actually playing the game with them, and just being a great person to be around. though i thought it over and figured that wouldn't be a good idea. i don't need to end up in jail or t he hospital heh. Lol, yeah, the prerequisite to going would be to be in total control of your emotions. Kinda hard to do when someone who can disrepect you (two of them but you only love one)that bad is in the same room.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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yeah not sure i can do that so thought it best i stay home and have a beer and watch TV hehe.
married 12 years together 18
2 children 4 and 8
wife's affair started sometime in sept of last year she had sex with him on 8-25-10 (or so).
on 9-3-10 she assaulted me and beat the crap out of me. i did call the cops (not first time she did it but damn well the last)
Divorce filled (by her) on 9-10-10
failed reconciliation discovered on 1-1-11 (she had him stay the weekend)
divorce court on 1-3-11 (we were going to go in and ask for it to be put off. then i 1-1-11 happened)
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That was wise. 
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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