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No, not the home phone. It is either email or work phone. She is out again tonight and me and my daughter are home. A typical night anymore. Keylogger installed. Next time she wants to go out (and why are you staying home with your daughter while she goes out?) speak up, "Great! Let's go." Get a babysitter, go with her.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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I installed a keylogger, but feel guility. Maybe I'm going crazy. I hate having to go through this again. You're not going crazy. Trust your instincts. You have nothing to feel guilty about. This is your marriage too and it's only right that you have information about what is going on in your marriage. If your wife is wayward, the sooner you know the better. When you get proof, don't confront her right away. Come back here and we'll walk you through the next steps. You mentioned this is happening "again". What happened the first time?
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Getting a babysitter is a good move it's being erratic she can't say no and does she then call the OM or disappear for a short while to let him know you are with her. If she asks say we are a couple we share and go out together, do not appear like you are snooping be natural and enthusiastic .
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Starwriter, I would also put a GPS on her car. Go to the new forum Operation Investigate and there are several GPS units recommended there.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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There was an affair 15 years ago. I found out and exposed it to everyone involved. It was with an old boyfriend. She went to counseling and I stayed despite almost leaving.
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