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I don't see Cardman's thread? Last time I checked, he was going through a rough patch, and I wanted to see how he was doing.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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He might have gotten it deleted. That's the only thing I can think of...
BH (me): 31 WXW: 31 (Still in the house!)
Married: Jan 2005 DS: 6 years old
DDay #1: 12 Mar 2008 Failed Recovery #1: Jun 2008 - Jun 2010
DDay #2: 28 Jun 2010 Failed Recovery #2: Aug 2010 - Sep 2010
Plan A/Limbo: Sep 2010 - 24 Jan 2011
DDay #3: 29 Jan 2011
On OM#4, that I know of...
D Filed: 11 Feb 2011
D Final: 10 Jun 2011 (still waiting on prop division & custody)
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
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Thanks Itsa. I hope he comes back, and I hope he's doing better than ok.
How are you?
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I'm as good as I can be. You know how it is. I really should update my thread, and write my journal entries that I've missed over the past few days. But, I really don't want to.  I've got a couple of hard decisions to come up with right now. One involves taxes, since I've always been responsible for that. STBX finally sent me her W2, after I reminded her yet again. I have quite a few options and can slice them all up between STBXW making out like a bandit, varying degrees of "fair", or she gets nailed to the wall. I know what I would love to do, but that also just keeps her in the house longer; which I don't want. How about you MJ?
BH (me): 31 WXW: 31 (Still in the house!)
Married: Jan 2005 DS: 6 years old
DDay #1: 12 Mar 2008 Failed Recovery #1: Jun 2008 - Jun 2010
DDay #2: 28 Jun 2010 Failed Recovery #2: Aug 2010 - Sep 2010
Plan A/Limbo: Sep 2010 - 24 Jan 2011
DDay #3: 29 Jan 2011
On OM#4, that I know of...
D Filed: 11 Feb 2011
D Final: 10 Jun 2011 (still waiting on prop division & custody)
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
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He might have gotten it deleted. That's the only thing I can think of... There was a poster here a few months ago whose wife also came here (separately). No affair was ever confirmed, yet their interactions were so dysfunctional that even MelodyLane was convinced all was not as it appeared to be. I wound up speaking to the guy on the phone, as he had expressed interest in buying the GPS I'd used to expose my WxW. At one point, he told me that his attorney had advised him to stop posting. Continuing to do so could hurt his case. I don't know whether he had his thread removed, but that's one explanation. By the way, he called me just about a week ago. They are still in Plan D, but his suspect-WW is losing every battle she's tried to fight. He's not real happy with the way things are, but he's a lot happier than he was when he first got here. I can relate to that!
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I'm as good as I can be. You know how it is. I really should update my thread, and write my journal entries that I've missed over the past few days. But, I really don't want to. LOL....I do know how it is. Especially the part about not feeling like updating. Sometimes I feel like I have so much going on in my head, I don't know how to sort it out and write it out. It's too overwhelming at times. Or, sometimes, there's just not much to say. I've got a couple of hard decisions to come up with right now.
One involves taxes, since I've always been responsible for that. STBX finally sent me her W2, after I reminded her yet again. I have quite a few options and can slice them all up between STBXW making out like a bandit, varying degrees of "fair", or she gets nailed to the wall. I know what I would love to do, but that also just keeps her in the house longer; which I don't want. Hahahaha.....I can see the evil and good side competing against each other. I'm advising to do what will be fair. Sometimes it's just so hard to decide what's fair. I've had some ups and downs the past week or so. I actually wanted to post about it, but I hesitate to share what I really want to share that I need help with because my husband may read here, and I feel vulnerable. I need to decide if I care about that or not. All in all, I'm doing ok. Thanks for asking.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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There was a poster here a few months ago whose wife also came here (separately). No affair was ever confirmed, yet their interactions were so dysfunctional that even MelodyLane was convinced all was not as it appeared to be.
I wound up speaking to the guy on the phone, as he had expressed interest in buying the GPS I'd used to expose my WxW.
At one point, he told me that his attorney had advised him to stop posting. Continuing to do so could hurt his case.
I don't know whether he had his thread removed, but that's one explanation.
By the way, he called me just about a week ago. They are still in Plan D, but his suspect-WW is losing every battle she's tried to fight. He's not real happy with the way things are, but he's a lot happier than he was when he first got here.
I can relate to that! Yeah, you're both probably right about him needing to delete his thread for now, due to the divorce. I almost thought about doing the same thing with my old threads. I'm not sure where I read it before, but some good advice I've heard was to "lawyer up, work out, and delete your facebook account". I can see where any public access to you could be used against you in court. Here's to hoping Cardman is winning his battle.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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Someone out here in the virtual world is hoping you're doing well, kicking azz and taking names.
When you can, let us know how you're doing.
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D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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