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The song I mentioned to you on another thread last week. The one that makes me think of you every time I hear it. Some parts of it make me feel like it's sorta "my theme song" - lol - If us regular folks can have a theme song, that is -- Feels weird to say that -- Kinda like saying you have a "nemesis" or an "arch enemy" when you aren't walking around being a superhero wearing a cape.
Anyway, it's:
Aftermath by Adam Lambert
Even if you don't like Adam Lambert I still think it's a great song...[I can't help it, I adore Adam's music - so any naysayers can shut it! ]
The acoustic version:
The regular version:
The lyrics:
Quote
Aftermath
Have you lost your way? Livin' in the shadow of the messes that you made And so it goes Everything inside your circle starts to overflow Take a step before you leap Into the colours that you seek You get back what you give away So don't look back on yesterday
Wanna scream out No more hiding Don't be afraid of what's inside Wanna tell ya you'll be alright In the Aftermath Anytime anybody pulls you down Anytime anybody says you're not allowed Just remember you are not alone In the Aftermath
You feel the weight Of lies and contradictions that you live with every day It's not too late Think of what could be if you rewrite the role you play Take a step before you leap Into the colours that you seek You get back what you give away So don't look back on yesterday
Wanna scream out No more hiding Don't be afraid of what's inside Wanna tell ya you'll be alright In the Aftermath Anytime anybody pulls you down Anytime anybody says you're not allowed Just remember you are not alone In the Aftermath In the Aftermath
Before you break you have to shed your armor Take a trip and fall into the glitter Tell a stranger that they're beautiful So all you feel is love, love All you feel is love, love
Wanna scream out No more hiding Don't be afraid of what's inside Wanna tell you you'll be alright In the Aftermath
Wanna scream out No more hiding Don't be afraid of what's inside Wanna tell ya you'll be alright In the Aftermath
Anytime anybody pulls you down Anytime anybody says you're not allowed Just remember you are not alone In the Aftermath In the Aftermath Wanna tell ya you'll be alright In the Aftermath In the Aftermath Just remember you are not alone In the Aftermath...
Mrs. W
P.S. Admittedly, I'm not too sure about these words:
"Take a trip and fall into the glitter Tell a stranger that they're beautiful"
I just ignore those parts or try to do some creative mental gymnastics to make them fit appropriately...HA!
and .... I posted something to you on another thread. Not sure if you caught it.
Originally Posted by Pepperband
Originally Posted by Tawandabelle
Okay, drama queen moment over...again...hopefully for a few long months this time.
A different imagery/visual. I experience your moods like a ping-pong ball. Usually, I can anticipate the direction you will travel, then the ping-pong ball takes a sudden bounce in a weird direction. And I go: "Hey? What was THAT?"
Do not denounce your sensitivity. God made you that way.
Find new ways to deal with that God-given sensitivity.
Because I think you are so precious, Luri - because you have meant so much to me here - I worry about you. I care about you.
Sometimes I see you struggle about what you think others think about you. About what you think you are "supposed" to say here. And it's true, there are some things that are better left unsaid here - and recognizing that is a GOOD thing about you -- it means you consider others -- It indicates empathy -- it means that you understand that IN THIS PLACE ONLY, a place where we discuss adultery with the victims of adultery -- NOT at home with your husband -- that of course you wear a "label" and doing so has the potential to HELP others -- to offer HOPE to others -- It is not worn to pigeonhole you in the very bad decisions you [and I] made IN THE PAST. It is OKAY to CHOOSE to wear a label here -- It is HELPFUL. Does this make sense to you at all? I'm not sure I'm saying exactly what I hope to impart - forgive me if you don't need to hear any of this -- I could certainly be wrong.
and I posted the following to you on another thread in case you missed it.
Originally Posted by faithful follower
[quote] So now I have to figure out if navel gazing is warranted or if I just....forget it? But I can't forget. I just pack it up in a box and move on like.....it doesn't matter? Forgive me for musing, but I think it reinforces empathy.
I don't care about the Kevin Lehman thing. It's MB, not sheet music.com. And most of why it kept dogging me was curiosity, which was satisfied. I mean, one of my pet peeves on the Christian forum I am part of is when an angry atheist follows people around questioning everything. Hello!! Christian forum!!! So it makes sense that an MB forum would be about.....MB.
I think I treat this forum too much like "group therapy." Probably need to see a real one....but what would I talk about?
Beware the blond woman with hair spray induced brain damage
Hey Luri, I didn't know that was you. I want you to know that THIS quote from you post is a very humble and open post. I see more of you and less of the defensiveness here.
I have been through a lot in my life. Some at my own hands, like you. I don't know your hurts but they are yours and I won't discount them. I just wanted to say that I truly believe that acceptance, forgiveness and working through your pain is much better than spending hours in IC talking about your past. There is nothing we can do to change the past. I learned a lot posting here on MB the last nearly 6 years. My M may not be a MB model but I as an individual have gained loads of wisdom and insight from the people here. Add to that my faith and my desire to be the woman God wants me to be and you get a much improved person!
I've told you this before, Tawanda/Luri, but you are one of my favorite posters. I love your genuine words, your strength and wisdom, and your sense of humor. You bring a much-needed perspective to this place, and I hope you know how warmly and highly thought of you are.
Hey, TB - I don't have the long-running history with you that the ladies do, but know that I do admire you.
Sometimes it takes a lot more strength to say something that can and will ostracize you from people and places that mean something to you, because you are risking that loss to maintain your own integrity.
It takes more to not go with the flow, to not follow the crowd... to not be a people-pleaser.
You are all heart, with a strong mind... and the two don't always agree.
Good for you TB, you are an amazing person.
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
Luri!!! Let me join the love fest. I can only get online every few months, so you may not remember me. But when I first came here, and before all those olds posts were lost, you had so many kind and insightful words for me.
God bless and comfort you!
DTC
"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer
I really tried to find an old Twila Paris song, True Friend, to post on here, but it isn't on youtube. But here are the lyrics:
Seems like you know when I need you Seems like He knows who to send You never come as a prophet Just an open hearted friend Faithfully wounding my pride Bringing me back to His side Sharing the Word that you hide in your heart Chorus You are a true friend Pointing me to Him Lifting my downcast eyes Turning my gaze to the sky Probing your love again You are a true friend You are a true friend Some days I feel like a failure And I'd love to leave it all I see no reason to go on That's when you decide to call Making it simple and clear That's why your voice is so dear My heart takes courage from hearing you say Repeat Chorus
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