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Well it has been 9 months since i found out that my husband was having an affair and I am still not dealing well!! I still think that I have made the wrong decision my trying to stay in our marriage and make it work!! Some days are better than others but here lately i feel that i have made the wrong decision!! I do not know what to do!! I want my marriage to work but do not understand why I cannot get over what he has done to me and my girls!! Please I need some advice!!


DDay: May 25, 2010
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Link to your original thread.
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To update everyone on my situation here goes:
my husband has now taken a job where he will be home every night but i still have to finish my job out because i am a teacher
we have to move so that he can be home every night for this new job
i am excited about this but still have reservations
he has had no contact with the lady that he had the affair with since sept that i know of
so there it is!!


DDay: May 25, 2010
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You are going to have to build us a bridge from your last post on 17 October. So tell us:

Did he accept that job, and did you move?
Has he changed his stated opinion that he loves her and not you?
Are you trying to follow any of the MB principles - RH, UA, etc - and is he doing the same?
Are you writing because you no longer love him, and want to kno waht to do about that, or that you still love him and he's not reciprocating?

My typing sux. I don't have to forcefeed you the type of info we need. Give us as much as you can to work on for you, okay?

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he has had no contact with the lady piece of breathing trash that he had the affair with since sept that i know of
There, fixed that sentence for you. smile

tcp, are you snooping to confirm NC? What has your WH done to provide you with a sense of safety in your M? What has he done to work on recovering the M with you?


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