a brief recap: My husband has been using erotic services for a while. we just married two years ago. I caught him emailing escort before. but he denied , he said he was just curious...he apologized and i forgave him. just one month ago, i found out a text msg from a call girl. I went through his last year's phone bills....found that he contacts escort service at least once a month.

Just confronted him last night. he denied straightaway...i told him that i knew he called erotic service many times .his answer is: "i just called, i swear i didn't do anything with anyone at your back".....for the next two hours, he still claimed that he did not do anything but just called/text .....but i made him to admit he did see a prostitute once before we married. i guess he thinks he has to admit something to show that he was sincere. (ps, i hired a private investigator for two days, but didn't catch anything suspicious)

then he said our marriage is tough.. he was kinda gave up on our marriage since our last fight. .blah blah blah.. anyways, his answer is: he is sorry, but he didn't do anything, he 's willing to go to see therapist with me and try to save our marriage. but he cannot promise anything.

I do not want a divorce. i have 2 options

1： forgive him just like last time and see therapist. two possible results: we restore our marriage or he cheats on me again...

2: tell his parents . two possible results: he feels totally shamed and try to work out our marriage ; or he totally give up and just want a divorce ....

Tell him you need him to take a lie detector test. Then, set one up. They usually start spilling their guts before the test, but you should still go ahead with the test to make sure you get the whole truth.