I was widowed after an 18-year marriage in 2009. I have since remarried to a wonderful Godly woman. We are very happy together, we bought a small house which is sufficient but not extravagant. And we are basically enjoying our life together.

The problem, and the reason I post this in the infidelity section, is that I am having recurrent dreams of my wife and another man in sexual acts, and in these dreams my wife tells me how the other man is so much better than me and how she would be so much happier with him.

I never had any dreams like this before. I have no reason to believe that my wife has been unfaithful in reality. I understand that it's only a dream.

Anybody share this experience? or know how I can stop? When I awake from these dreams, it is reminiscent of when I was a child and had nightmares. I would wake up sick and feeling a strong pain in my chest like angina.

I recently started to take wellbutrin at the advice of my doctor. Can this drug cause dreams?

i would stop the wellbutrin for a few weeks and see if it goes away..if it's for depression ask for another med..if it's to help quit smoking try the patch

Have you discussed these dreams with your wife?

I would talk to the doctor about changing from Wellbutrin also. I have heard about the strange dream thing before associated with it. I would definitely not take it as a subliminal message that she had an A or anything. Also, when my DH took wellbutrin, he ended up also being prescribed zoloft to help with anxiety caused by wellbutrin. I know that sexual side effects are a concern for many people, but nightmares will eventually disrupt your sleep enough to affect you.

I also would not read too much into dreaming about your former wife with regard to your won fidelity. It does NOT make you unfaithful either. I take Scrooge's thought line on this...."there is more of gravy than of grave in you, Marley." I know some people are really into the dream meaning and stuff....but I am skeptical of such hoo ha

I think the first step is to see your Dr. as soon as you can. Do not stop or cut back on the medication though. Wait until you see the Dr.

abc098,
This is from the information about wellbutrin side effects.

Do not stop taking Wellbutrin without first talking to your doctor. You may have unpleasant side effects if you stop taking this medication suddenly.

that is true...depends how long you've been on it..if only a few days you can cut it cold turkey...if you've been on it for awhile you should taper it over a couple weeks...definitely speak to your doctor

Oh, and I just noticed your screen name. It made me reread your OP, and I realized I was confused. I thought you had been dreaming about your former wife.

theprincessbuttercup wishes you well.

Thank you. I also wish you well.

It's not to quit smoking. Thank God He saved me from that.

It's because I have some problems adjusting to life after having several surgeries over the past 5 years. They told me when I had my first operation (triple bypass) that many people become depressed. I did not become depressed after this. I actually felt like I was 30 again. But after my second op, on my left carotid, I was left with a difficult speech impediment which necessitated a long period of therapy. This was the point at which I became depressed and sought help for it. I went to a therapist who suggested that I go to the family doc and request a prescription for an anti-depressant. The wellbutrin is not anything I added to my regimen recently. It's more than 4 years.

So, I am definitely going to start with the doctor. I've been on it quite a while.

No, I have not discussed this with my wife. It would serve no purpose. I don't believe in "hoo-hah" either or that dreams predict futures, etc. I have no doubt that this is a total figment of my imagination, or maybe a medication side-effect.

I would call the doctor too. Sometimes AD's have to be changed periodically.

My FIL has had a few heart surgeries, and he struggles with depression too.

I've had weird, annoying, dreams in response to medication.

I know you said you don't believe in predictive dreams, but the few times I've had weird recurring dreams (and didn't have medication, a scary movie, or somethng like that to blame it on) they really were my subconsious trying to tell me something about myself and my personal fears.

But from what you said, I echo the others: see what the doc says.