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Do you wonder why you have to, feel the things that hurt you, if there's a God who loves you, where is He now?
Maybe, there are things you can't see and all those things are happening to bring a better ending some day, some how, you'll see, you'll see
Chorus: Would dare you, would you dare, to believe, that you still have a reason to sing, 'cause the pain you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming
so hold on, you got to wait for the light press on, just fight the good fight because the pain you've been feeling, it's just the dark before the morning
My friend, you know how this all ends and you know where you're going, you just don't know how you get there so just say a prayer. and hold on, cause there's good who love God, life is not a snapshot, it might take a little time, but you'll see the bigger picture
Would dare you, would you dare, to believe, that you still have a reason to sing, 'cause the pain you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming
so hold on, you got to wait for the light press on, just fight the good fight because the pain you've been feeling, it's just the dark before the morning yeah, yeah, before the morning, yeah, yeah
Once you feel the way of glory, all your pain will fade to memory once you feel the way of glory, all your pain will fade to memory memory, memory, yeah
Would dare you, would you dare, to believe, that you still have a reason to sing, 'cause the pain you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming
Would dare you, would you dare, to believe, that you still have a reason to sing, 'cause the pain you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming
com'n, you got to wait for the light press on, just fight the good fight because the pain you've been feeling, it's just the hurt before the healing the pain you've been feeling, just the dark before the morning before the morning, yeah, yeah before the morning
Christian lyrics - BEFORE THE MORNING LYRICS - JOSH WILSON
Last edited by LostNtime; 03/12/1110:41 PM.
Me = BH DDay Dec. 2010 D filed Oct 2011 (by me) D final 3/16/12
Thank you for sharing that! This one called Keep Breathing is also good (also Christian artist--Kerrie Roberts)
You wait in darkness For answers that you can't see You know what you deserve And you're wondering why your life is Not what you thought it should be When the knife breaks Your heart still aches How can you face the day You just
Keep breathing you'll make it Don't give in You're not done yet Sometimes all that you can do is Keep breathing and believing Don't let go Just hold on tighter A little longer When you feel like your dying Keep breathing
Don't give up Don't give in No you're not done Don't give up Don't give in Don't let go
When every moment Is almost more than you can take You've got to know some Tomorrow will bring you a breakthrough Is the reason why You got to get through the today When the knife's gone You will be strong
Keep breathing you'll make it Don't give in You're not done yet Sometimes all that you can do is Keep breathing and believing Don't let go Just hold on tighter A little longer
With every breath You're bringing hope You're letting go of all your doubts When nothing is easy You got to keep going Even when you don't know how You don't have to know how, no
Keep breathing you'll make it Don't give in You're not done yet Sometimes all that you can do is Keep breathing and believing Don't let go Just hold on tighter A little longer
Keep breathing Don't give up No you're not done yet Don't give up Don't give in Don't let go No you're not done yet
Last edited by Sandra2; 03/13/1112:41 AM.
Wife/BS (37) to H (37) 2 children, both 7 years old Married 15 years Affair of 3ish months, Disc. 2/20 NC letter to OW 2/22
Hope its alright to put this up, One of my favorites.
Praise You in This Storm words by Mark Hall/music by Mark Hall and Bernie Herms
I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down and wiped our tears away, stepped in and saved the day. But once again, I say amen and it's still raining as the thunder rolls I barely hear You whisper through the rain, "I'm with you" and as Your mercy falls I raise my hands and praise the God who gives and takes away.
Chorus: And I'll praise you in this storm and I will lift my hands for You are who You are no matter where I am and every tear I've cried You hold in your hand You never left my side and though my heart is torn I will praise You in this storm
I remember when I stumbled in the wind You heard my cry to You and raised me up again my strength is almost gone how can I carry on if I can't find You and as the thunder rolls I barely hear You whisper through the rain "I'm with you" and as Your mercy falls I raise my hands and praise the God who gives and takes away
Chorus
I lift my eyes onto the hills where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth I lift my eyes onto the hills where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
Chorus
M 29 yrs DS 28 DD 18 Me 53 FWH FBS MTA signed 5/11/2011 D final 5/16/2011
Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
awesome song, nesre! Thanks so much for posting that.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Nesre, I have not cried in a long, long time. I listened to this song a few minutes ago and now I'm crying. Music has always touched me deeply (my heart is music ministry) and this song just did me in -- not in a bad way. They are tears of quiet joy and love. Thank you for the reminder that HE is with us through it all.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* “In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
LNT Thanks for starting this thread. I can easily live without a TV...Don't take music away!
Thanks to all the people on this board who do not CODDLE newcomers and lay out the straight truth.
PrincessMeggy thanks for your words of help to me some 3 or 4 years ago. HE is the answer and help.
nESRE
Matthew West-History
Its been a bad day, you've been looking back And all you can see is everything you wish you could take back All your mistakes, a world of regrets All of those moments you would rather forget I know it's hard to believe Let me refresh your memory
Chorus: Yesterday is history And history is miles away So leave it all behind you Let it always remind you of the day The day that love made history
You know you can't stay right where you fell The hardest part is forgiving yourself But let's take a walk into today And don't let your past get in the way
Repeat chorus
Yeah Yeah
Would you believe that you are history In the making, in the making Every choice that you are making Every step that you are taking Every chain that you are breaking History is in the making Every word that you are saying Every prayer that you are praying Every chain that you are breaking History is in the making History is in the making History is in the making
Repeat chorus
Yeah yeah Oh history is in the making
Every word that you are saying Every prayer that you are praying Every chain that you are breaking History is in the making History is in the making History is in the making
Here is another song called The Motions. Although this speaks to our relationship with Christ, I think it's also applicable to a BS who is trying to save their M - I don't want to spend my whole life asking "What if I had given everything instead of going through the motions?"
Matthew West version -
Rock of Ages version -
This might hurt, it's not safe But I know that I've gotta make a change I don't care if I break, At least I'll be feeling something 'Cause just okay is not enough Help me fight through the nothingness of life
I don't wanna go through the motions I don't wanna go one more day without Your all consuming passion inside of me I don't wanna spend my whole life asking, "What if I had given everything, instead of going through the motions?"
No regrets, not this time I'm gonna let my heart defeat my mind Let Your love make me whole I think I'm finally feeling something 'Cause just okay is not enough Help me fight through the nothingness of this life
'Cause I don't wanna go through the motions I don't wanna go one more day without Your all consuming passion inside of me I don't wanna spend my whole life asking, "What if I had given everything, instead of going through the motions?"
take me all the way (take me all the way) take me all the way ('cause I don't wanna go through the motions) take me all the way (I know I'm finally feeling something real) take me all the way
I don't wanna go through the motions I don't wanna go one more day without Your all consuming passion inside of me I don't wanna spend my whole life asking, "What if I had given everything, instead of going through the motions?"
I don't wanna go through the motions I don't wanna go one more day without Your all consuming passion inside of me I don't wanna spend my whole life asking, "What if I had given everything, instead of going through the motions?"
take me all the way (take me all the way) take me all the way (I don't wanna go, I don't wanna go) take me all the way (through the motions) take me all the way
I don't wanna go through the motions
Last edited by Eph525; 03/24/1102:20 PM.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids.
Plan A Thread Plan B Thread Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
In case anyone is interested in a good song for a WS to send to a BS this is one my husband sent to me....... It made me cry Rascal Flatts..............I won't let go, youtube has a version with the words, listen see if it tugs at your heart strings..........
jessi
BW 56 WH 57 Married 25 years, live together for 2, dated 2 years before that..... DS 23, DS 25 D-Day Nov 23/09 NC Mar 1/10 Working on Recovery Grateful for finding Marriage Builders
I heard you say you would love for a lifetime Now you complain a lifetime just doesn't feel right for you Another casualty of casual love Another soul out of place, a heart that gave up
Why do we break the promises we make? Are we living for ourselves?
[Chorus:] Don't give up on love and throw it all away Don't give up on love and let it fall away When did it become so easy to run from your pain Don't give up on love and throw it all away
I heard you say you can't change a stubborn heart I can relate 'cause that's how I feel when I talk with you Why should it take losing everything to realize it might be time to change?
[Chorus:]
Your restless heart won't win 'cause you take but you don't give And you'll keep moving on until you learn what love is
Don't give up on love and throw it all away Don't give up on love and let it fall away Don't give up on love
nESRE
Last edited by nesre; 05/14/1105:28 PM.
M 29 yrs DS 28 DD 18 Me 53 FWH FBS MTA signed 5/11/2011 D final 5/16/2011
Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
Wish all the waywards would internalize these lyrics!!!!
Point of Grace: How you Live
Verse 1: Wake up to the sunlight With your windows open Don't hold in your anger or leave things unspoken Wear your red dress Use your good dishes Make a big mess and make lots of wishes Have what you want But want what you have And don't spend your life lookin' back
Chorus: Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out You won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been Cuz it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live
Verse 2: So go to the ballgames And go to the ballet And go see your folks more than just on the holidays Kiss all your children Dance with your wife Tell your husband you love him every night Don't run from the truth 'Cause you can't get away Just face it and you'll be okay
Chorus: Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out You won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been 'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live
Bridge: Oh wherever you are and wherever you've been Now is the time to begin
Verse 3: So give to the needy And pray for the grieving E'en when you don't think that you can 'Cause all that you do is bound to come back to you So think of your fellow man Make peace with God and make peace with yourself 'Cause in the end there's nobody else
Chorus Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out 'Cause you won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been 'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live
'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live
I'm a die hard u2 fanatic... I (tried painfully) to sing this to my fww after we started recovery...
grace
Grace, she takes the blame She covers the shame Removes the stain It could be her name
Grace... It's a name for a girl It's also a thought that, changed the world And when she walks on the street You can hear the strings Grace finds goodness in everything
Grace, she's got the walk Not on a ramp or on chalk She's got the time to talk She travels outside of karma, karma She travels outside... of karma
When she goes to work, you can hear the strings Grace finds beauty in everything
Grace... She carries a world on her hips No champagne flute for her lips No twirls or skips between her fingertips She carries a pearl in perfect condition
What once was hurt What once was friction What left a mark No longer stings... Because Grace makes beauty Out of ugly things
Grace finds beauty in everything
Celtic Voyager Married 22+ years 3 young adult children
Music has always been a big thing to me. I've played an instrument since I was 9-10 years old. Still playing piano, albeit a bit rustily.
I've made several CD's for H. One of the songs I sent him (and one I'm currently plinking out on the piano) is Coldplay's "The Scientist." The Sundays "Wild Horses" (that I posted on another thread recently) was one I played for him, another was Shinedown's "If You Only Knew," but really I think for me, this one says it best - Colbie Caillet's "I Never Told You."
I miss those blue eyes How you kissed me at night I miss the way we sleep Like there's no sunrise Like the taste of your smile I miss the way we breathe
But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you I can't believe I still want you After all the things we've been through I miss everything about you Without you
I see your blue eyes Every time I close mine You make it hard to see Where I belong to when I'm not around you It's like I'm not with me
But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you I can't believe I still want you After all the things we've been through I miss everything about you Without you
But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you Can't believe that I still want you After all the things we've been through I miss everything about you Without you
FWW
"Snow and adolescence are the only problems that disappear if you ignore them long enough." ~ Earl Wilson
I miss those blue eyes How you kissed me at night I miss the way we sleep Like there's no sunrise Like the taste of your smile I miss the way we breathe
But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you I can't believe I still want you After all the things we've been through I miss everything about you Without you
I see your blue eyes Every time I close mine You make it hard to see Where I belong to when I'm not around you It's like I'm not with me
But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you I can't believe I still want you After all the things we've been through I miss everything about you Without you
But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you Can't believe that I still want you After all the things we've been through I miss everything about you Without you
Thats a great song! love the lyrics. I love coldplay's yellow too. Love the crooners as well. Buble, sinatra, connick, but nat king cole is by far my top singer! well aside from bono.
Celtic Voyager Married 22+ years 3 young adult children
I just want my WH to "Come Home" This song I am actually singing and playing all day long. It keeps me praying Acts 26:18, and other Psalms prayers. I just stay in prayer for my WH and family when I have certain songs in my mind.
Come Home Artist: Luminate Album: (tbd)
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You�re best friends with the word �regret� And you�re afraid that your life�s been wasted So why hope if it�s only gonna let you down?
You don�t think people really change And you�re a mess and you�ll always be the same And you doubt if you�ll ever get it turned around So you�ve been running, searching for something But you�re looking in a place you don�t belong But it�s never too late, you can�t outrun grace No, mercy doesn�t care what you�ve done So, come home. So, come home You can try and fix your broken empire And put bricks on a cracked foundation But you�d be building castles on the sand There�s power in the blood of Jesus And your Father�s screaming �just come home� And He�s reaching out His hand I know you�ve been running, searching for something But you�re looking in a place you don�t belong But it�s never too late, you can�t outrun grace No, mercy doesn�t care what you�ve done So, come home. So, come home From the shadows, from the wrong roads, From the darkness, from the unknown, To redemption, something beautiful, To a new love, to a new home Chorus
He never thought he cared so much about the minute hand Until he started praying for, a second chance If he could only do it all again He'd trade the long nights that he spent behind his desk For all he missed
He tells his wife "I wish that this moment in this room was not me dying, but just spending a little time with you."
You only get just one time around You only get one shot at this One chance, to find out The one thing that you don't wanna miss One day when it's all said and done I hope you see that it was enough, this One ride, one try, one life... To love....
She never thought she cared so much about those little hands That held on tight the day she left Til she was scared to death Sitting all alone on a hotel bed, the end of the road The sun had set on her big plans To feel young again
She picks up the phone, dials the number, hears that little voice That's haunted every single mile, since she made that choice
You only get just one time around You only get one shot at this One chance, to find out The one thing that you don't wanna miss One day when it's all said and done I hope you see that it was enough, this One ride, one try, one life... To love............
You only get just one time around Only get one shot at this One chance, to find out The one thing that you don't wanna miss One day when it's all said and done I hope you see that it was enough, this One ride, one try, one life........ One ride, one try, one life........ To love.... To love.... mmmmmm......
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR