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I'm feeling really vengeful about the OW lately. I think it's wise to avoid contact with her at all costs, but she has been persistent in trying to contact my husband and I'm fed up.
What does Dr. Harley say about the BS contacting the OW? Her H doesn't seem to care that she has contacted my H, or is incapable of stopping her. She is showing herself for the manipulative ?@#$ she is, oh but I'd like to strike out at her.
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How is she attempting to C your H?
He needs to change all phone numbers, email addresses, etc. This should be water tight so that she can't get through.
Other than that, another idea would be a restraining order. That should get the message across, LOL.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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8YL,
Do you massively expose OW to her family members, church folks and etc. The fantasy relationship OW has with your H needs to come to a crashing halt.
Gather your evidence into an artillery shells and launch a barrage.
God Bless
Gamma
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The problem is that every time I contact someone she knows, she tries and sometimes succeeds in reaching my husband. She rationalizes that since I broke the No Contact rule, so can she.
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The problem is that every time I contact someone she knows, she tries and sometimes succeeds in reaching my husband. She rationalizes that since I broke the No Contact rule, so can she. 8, have you considered filing a restraining order against her? Are you keeping track of all of these attempts at contact? If you and your husband have closed every door to contact and she continues to find a way around that, you might want to consider taking legal action. Short of that, you may want to consider having an attorney send her a cease and desist letter. Seeing something like that on 'official' legal letterhead stationery from an attorney may stop her.
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How is she attempting to C your H? I didn't see an answer to this. It's up to you guys (specifically your husband) to make it impossible for her to contact him.
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She rationalizes that since I broke the No Contact rule, so can she. This almost sounds like it's a joint project, like No Contact is a rule that you guys and she agree to together. No Contact shouldn't depend on her behavior. It's a boundary that's got to be enforced.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I vote for a restraining order.....as public as possible.
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The problem is that every time I contact someone she knows, she tries and sometimes succeeds in reaching my husband. She rationalizes that since I broke the No Contact rule, so can she. File a restraining order against that wh*re, 8years. If your husband lets her through ONE MORE TIME, you should be filing for divorce. It is HIS JOB to end contact and he is ALLOWING CONTACT. At your expense. I have watched you sink down further and further into emotional despair since you have been here. You need to stop this crap now, 8 years. If your H will not protect you, then YOU need to do it before you have a nervous breakdown.
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