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devildogVA #2489892 03/17/11 07:19 PM
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Originally Posted by devildogVA
All: The POA is ready. Letters are written and evidence is printed. I have one really serious concern:

The OM is a doctor and I'm concerned about any legal reprisal if I reveal the A to OMW. Is their a lawyer on this forum who practices in VA that can offer me advice on what legal ramifications, if any, I might face? If so, pls message me privately or reply on this thread.

Just covering my flank guys...
What legal ramifications do you, a cuckolded husband, expect, by letting this garbage bag's wife know what she's married to? What possible course of legal action does this POS have? I can't think of one.


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Agree with Gloveoil! If I were the OMW and you didn't tell me, I would take you DOWN. I would be FURIOUS that you could do something so callous and cruel. If you keep the affair a secret for the OM and your WW, then you are an accessory to the crime. And trust me, she will view it that way.
Yes. That's one thing I'll never get over - that OWH knew from the beginning that the A with my H and his W was going on. Why didn't he tell me?


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Devildog, trust me, doctor-boy won't sue you. 'Cuz if he does, then y'know what? Then you & your defense lawyer would get to subpoena all sorts of goodies in your defense... his home & office e-mail records... his phone records. Which could reveal misuse of hospital resources & who knows what else...

Unless this guy's smoother than James Bond's silk boxers on ball-bearing ice-skates and has covered all his tracks, chances are overwhelming that he's got some stuff that he would not want to risk have coming out in court, because it could get him splashed all over the papers & make no one want to retain him in their employ. And that could really crimp his style!

I'm no lawyer, but I can tell you that it's still legal to tell the truth here in the Old Dominion.


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If the OM is crazy enough to bring a lawsuit against you, which he won't, I would remind him that Virginia is a FAULT state, which means you can file for divorce on grounds of adultery. Which means, he would be subpoeaned to court to give sworn testimony under oath about his adultey with your wife. He would also be required, under discovery laws, to produce any emails, texts, etc, etc, relating to the affair. He would have to turn those over to the court.

You have him by the balls, in other words. laugh

Legal Grounds For Divorce:
A divorce may be granted on the following grounds in Virginia:

�Living separate and apart without any cohabitation and without interruption for one year. If there are no children of the marriage, the time limit is six months.
�Adultery
�Where either of the parties subsequent to the marriage has been convicted of a felony, sentenced to confinement for more than one year and confined for such felony subsequent to such conviction, and cohabitation has not been resumed after knowledge of such confinement (in which case no pardon granted to the party so sentenced shall restore such party to his or her conjugal rights).
�Where either party has been guilty of cruelty, caused reasonable apprehension of bodily hurt, or willfully deserted or abandoned the other, such divorce may be decreed to the innocent party after a period of one year from the date of such act.

[Based on Code of Virginia, Title 20, Section 20-91] here



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MelodyLane #2489912 03/17/11 07:53 PM
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POSOM has no grounds to bring a lawsuit against you. Think about it: what grounds??

Last edited by maritalbliss; 03/17/11 07:53 PM.

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